I am trying to help a good friend that is too embarrassed to do anything about it. If it were me I would be in a doctors office ASAP, but she's just not ready to admit it might be a problem.
She is fairly healthy 44, has had 2 children. She states she never had this problem before and never has any leakage.
When she goes to sleep, deep in sleep she will fully lose control of her bladder. Not during the day or naps, just deep sleep.
Its becoming more frequent and she's pretty upset. She asked me about it and I have no clue really. I did google it.
Lots of reasons, and nothing solid of course.
With her description I think its just Deep Sleep problems.
Has anyone else had issues with this? know of anyone that has it, and suggestions on what to put on her bed so when it happens it doesnt ruin anything she is sleeping on. I think that is what is bothering her the most.
We had a doctor come in and give a presentation on bladder control loss in a women's group I belong to. To them it is a common treatable condition that they see all the time (but usually after the patient has suffered a long time). They don't consider it embarrassing, so she shouldn't either. It's not like they talk about it around the water cooler, it's just not that interesting.
She needs to see her doctor.
It might be minor or it could be serious but she won't find out which it is until a doctor checks her out.
If it's minor and an easy fix then she'll feel relieved and problem will be solved.
If it's not minor then the sooner she starts dealing with it the better her options and she won't be missing windows of opportunity for treatment.
It could be anything.
MS
cancer
bladder infection
a reaction to certain common drugs - anyone can develop a sensitivity at any time
etc.
In the mean time a water proof mattress pad and/or Depends should help.
I would be worried about a tumor if it's this sudden...
Tell her to go to a female urologist or even a gynecologist would be able to start looking for the problem.
Female urologists are hard to find, but they might make her feel more comfortable.
Ditto the "she obviously needs to see a doctor"... any sudden dramatic change like that deserves a check with the doc. I think a new mattress pad and depends might help in the interim, but she really needs to be encouraged to go in.
I must mention, however, that if you don't want to google, you could probably just click the link that "magically" appears at the bottom of this thread... advertising "The Bedwetting Store"... kinda sick, isn't it? I wonder if they'll start advertising divorce lawyers under some of the other threads.
Poor thing..how mortifying and scary.
Please encourage her to see a doctor. I have a mother with a laundry list of health issues but she will not go to the doctor. "Oh...doctors don't know anything and they are just pushing drugs." Sigh....
Now she has put off so many things that her symptoms have worsened. I really believe if she had caught things when they first began then she wouldn't be in the crisis mode she is in now. She doesn't like to face reality and get bad news...so she lives in denial. It is so frustrating...but overall my heart aches for her.
I know that it is scary to have to face something and maybe get a bad diagnosis. But...she might have something pretty simple to fix in the beginning stage. Sounds like this JUST started happening...that could be a good thing if she addresses it quickly.
Suggest to her if you can pick her up and go with her to the appointment and then go out for a yummy lunch afterward or a movie. Give her something to look forward to that day, be a support and then blow off stress afterward together.
You sound like such a kind and compassionate gal pal!!
Off on a tangent here - any possibility of epilepsy? Full grand mal (tonic clonic) seizures can have that effect -- and if it is in her sleep/wake cycle, she may not have any idea! Do you know if once she is asleep if she is hard to wake?
M.,
There's a problem and she needs to talk with a doctor. She can wear the Depends but that's not going to make it go away.
Why is this JUST happening? Something traumatic in her life?
is she just recently getting deep sleep/REM sleep? I
There are great mattress pads that will NOT leak to the mattress - which would void a warranty - and they can be costly - we bought one that is guaranteed not to seep for $60 - dust mites, allergens, waterproof, sweat proof, etc. And it doesn't SOUND like a plastic sheet does.
PLEASE encourage her to go see a doctor.
http://www.everydayhealth.com/incontinence/are-your-sleep...
Yes, I have prolapse and last week this happened. I mean a huge amount. I refuse to have the mesh sling lift so I wear pads
