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Try to break things down one by one and take them on that way instead of trying to hit them all headfirst. Stress can do a lot. Trust me. It is normal for children to get sick around others, my oldest had strep so many times, even after she had her tonsils out and still gets it here and there & my youngest gets it frequently, but there isn't a bubble big enough for the two of them to keep them from growing & being children. As far as things went with your mom, you gave it your all, that is all anyone can expect of us. I have ulcerative colitis so i'm familiar w/ibs & i realize it can be hard, but it can be managed at times and sometimes not so well so you have to get under the care of a dr who can get things working for you and you have to realize that not everything in life is worth worrying about. Easier said then done, I agree, but sometimes you have to dance in the rain though...right. My husband has worked a steady 2nd job since the time we were married, even a 3rd at times, it takes away in such a way that you don't ever take notice of. If he's not sleeping now, how would he even do it and honestly i am thankful my husband helps out around the house but i feel guilty when he does because i feel as though he works hard all day, the least i could do is have that done. But he has the attitude that this is a 50/50 thing, the house, the girls, everything. I think that once we stop being so hard on ourselves most of the nerve issues resolve themselves. Best of luck to you.