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Hi A.. Against alot of people's ideas, I did just that. Tested my daughter. EVery year with my girl scout troops I would hold stranger danger "classes", talk to my daughter etc. Well, I got to thinking, that as well as I have taught my daughter, what if?? My daughter is constantly amazed at who I know, who knows me etc. So I put it to the test. I had someone she never seen before, didnt know, didnt know they knew me, drive by the house when she was out playing and say they lost their dog, would she jump in the car and help them look for it and it would be ok because they knew her mommy and they would reward her with icecream and the whole "9 yards" and much to my dismay...my daughter thought it was ok and was going to do it. When we talked about everything, she said she remembered the "stranger danger classes", but this guy said he knew ME and he said it would be ok, so she thought it was ok then.
I was mortified to say the least. But it was also a wake up call that I needed to do a better job of teaching my child that just because they say they know me, doesnt mean they do. We even talked about consequences if this was an actual event and not staged.
Go with your gut. If you are not comfortable with your child saying no, then try staging something. My daughter was 7.5(now 8.5)when I did this and I plan to do it again now that school is in session. 99% of the time I walk down to the busstop and pick her up, but one of these days I wont and will have another friend "try" and get her to go with them, while I sit at the corner in my car and watch.(she's much too excited when she gets off the bus to even realize if my car is sitting there)..This time I will have my friend say your mom was hurt or something and I need to take you to her and see what she does.
Everyone can condemn me, as people have for doing this, but at least I personally can sleep a little better at night, knowing I have done the best I could at relaying stranger danger to my daughter. Agreed, it is a different day and age and we all need to be on guard at all times. I am not about to just sit back and assume my daughter knows what to do. I am also thinking about this time having a friend, actually get out of the car and try to put her in the car and she if she kicks and screams and bites like she is supposed to.(of course my friend will wait to do all this until the other children are gone from the bus stop, and I will make all the parents aware of what is going on, just in case).
Best of luck..Just by thinking about this subject I can tell you are a wonderful thoughtful caring mommy!!!!!
(ps. I guess I should also say, that because I was abducted at Ford City Mall when I was 6, however they never actually got me out of the mall, this is something very close to my heart and I need to make certain I have done all I can to ensure the safety of my child)