Step Sons Behavior

Updated on August 30, 2012
K.R. asks from Bonifay, FL
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my step son is gotten a bad attitude lately, talks horrible and treats me horrible, bad manners and mean as can be..

me and his dad try to do everything right but not working..

we get him every other week his mom has 7 kids. she dosent care.

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So What Happened?

nothings changed as of now, but he is 4 yrs old, me and his dad have no kids together, i have a 5 yr old but hes at his dads majority of the time. i get him summer and every other holiday. tonight hes calling us meanys. i guess his mom is telling him to be mean to me and dad when hes with us. i dont know what else to do, takin toys and dvd player and tv is not working....his mom and dad were never married and have never been together they broke up 2 months into the pregnancy.

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C.M.

answers from Chicago on

Believe it or not, my stepdaughter acts up when she feels like she's not part of the family. Going between two houses is hard, and sometimes kids feel like they're not part of one house or the other.

Recently my SD has been acting up (is it the weather? Back to school?) When I finally sat down and talked to her about it she said she felt bad because her mom had gone out and had family pictures taken with her, her boyfriend an her brother and sister. My SD was at our house when they did it so she wasn't in the picture. Her mom had said she was going to Photoshop my SD into the picture (and she did) but my SD was very hurt that she wasn't ACTUALLY in the picture (even though the final product looks like she was) and wasn't able to go with for the family picture. At the same time she heard that my husband and I had gone out to see a movie she wanted to see. We weren't going to let her see it because it was rated R, but she didn't know it was rated R and so in her mind she felt left out.

Sometimes stepkids need to feel like they belong and are important. They don't need toys or outings, they need LOVE. Sometimes they just need someone to sit down and listen to their side, even if it sounds silly to you.

It sounds silly to us that my SD would be upset over a picture when it looks like she's in it and upset about a movie she wasn't allowed to see anyway. But she was, and that's her world. All we needed to do was listen and give her a hug and tell her she is loved.

Good luck!

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Well, how old is he? Are there other kids in your house? How long have his parents been divorced? How does he do in school? Does he have any health issues?

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A.V.

answers from Washington DC on

Have you considered professional help?

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A.T.

answers from New York on

It is rough to be a stepchild and to have a stepchild. I have a step daughter and have found that when their behavior goes sour, there's usually something more going on. Perhaps at home with mom. Also his age, hormones, girls..so many factors to consider. Sit and talk to him, either together, or let your husband do it without you. Have them go out together so that he feels safe around his dad and can talk it out with him. Hopefully you can arrive at a conclusion.

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