Yesterday I received a call from my son that his brother father's frist marriage pass away Brother did not wake from an operation he had done I did help raise him and I was married to thier father for 20 years Is it proper for me to fly to Puerto Rico for his furneral?
I agree with Sarah P. these are circumstances where sometimes just go, dont worry about what anyone thinks as you will be supporting people you cared about.
I'm so sorry for your loss. If you want to be there and show your love and your support, I think that you should definitely go. Do whatever you feel comfortable with.
E.,
Better get a take on how the boy's "natural" mother and father feel. Also how long has it been since you have seen and/or communicated with your step-son? Very delicate situation which has the potential to become more painful.
Blessings....
Good Morning E., I am so very sorry for you and your families loss.
May you find peace in the days ahead. Yes it is perfectly fine to go for his service. You cared for him, loved him was his mom for more then 20 yrs also. Once a Mom always a mom. Go in support of your son and the extended family.
May the Lord give you comfort daily.
K. Nana of 5
My answer to this is yes. Go in peace to show your respect for him and the family, it will be appreciated.
It may help to do the airline reservations over the phone stating your circumstances for last minute flying. Some airlines offer Bereavement Emergency Airfares that will honor a discount for the traveler.
Be safe in your journey and I am sorry for your loss,
Mary
Yes, I think it is okay for you to go. In fact, I think you need to go, no matter what happened between you and your ex husband. When someone loses a child, they want to know that that child was loved. One of the biggest ways people show that is by going to the funeral.
Of course you should go. If not only to pay your respects to a child that you helped raise and cared for, but also to support your son at this very difficult time. Sometimes we need to set aside things that separate us to be there for those you have loved.
My father came to my grandmothers (mom's mom) funeral after being divorced for 25 years. My mom and dad had not communication for, at least, 15 years. My mom still talks about how much it meant to her that he came. He really cared about gram.
My heart goes out to your son and the rest of the family. How difficult it must be to lose a child.
God Bless,
D.
So sorry for your loss, and for all involved. As long as the boys mother and father do not mind if you are there ( if you did not get along for instance), I would go. Your son probably wants you to be there also.
If you want to go, you should go. You need to grieve also. I would be considerate of the rest of the family though, no one needs drama at a time like this. If there are bad feelings on anybody's part, you can stay off to the side, be discreet and respectful, and don't get involved in any family issues. If everyone is on decent terms, it shouldn't be much of an issue. Grief does funny things to people even in the best of family situations, but hopefully everyone will behave like considerate adults and just allow everyone who cared for him to say thier goodbyes. I am sorry for your loss.
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It depends on the relationship you have or had with his Mom & the rest of his family. If there is any bad feelings between you then for the sake of his family I wouldn't go.
so sorry for the lose of ur loved one:( yes i would go you was his mom as well im sure he would want you to be there:) and im sure your son would want you there dont feel funny you was his mother for 20years so go show ur love:) have a good day and may god be with you...be careful on your trip
Yes I agree, you will always be a mom to the boy. I am so very sorry to hear of your lose. You should go and say goodbye I think if you dont you will always wish you did. Take care of yourself.
