How do you convince yourself to not dwell on a past incident/mistake? I sold something very valuable in a yard sale this weekend on my dollar table and CANNOT get it off my mind!!!!!
Thanks team--but I am not only speaking of yard sale items as spilled milk...
I look at it as a sunk cost and move on. There is nothing that can be done to change the past, the only thing you can do is learn from it and move forward not doing it again, ya know?
Hhhmmm, well regret, like anger, is a colossal waste of time, talent, and energy.
Not that I always FOLLOW that rule, sigh, only that I know it to be true.
Look at it this way maybe. It's just a THING, it's just monetary value. The GOOD stuff you got can't actually be bought or sold, right?
:)
When the item was on the dollar table, didn't you already have reservations about selling it? Or were you trying to make more money from it? If that is the case, you should just forget it. Take it as a lesson learned. Next time you have a yard sale, put a price tag on each item, if you can, and double check that the items on the dollar table are sold for a dollar and not more.
Oh no. So sorry. I say go buy something of equal value...might make you feel slightly better.
ho hum...past mistakes...I just pretend there's someone out there marking my gravestone with all the stupid things I've done, so when I finally die, it will be there for all to see. People who read my marker will either care what it says or they won't - hopefully they'll be crying so hard from my passing they won't be able see through their tears. Either way, there's nothing I can do about it.
Instead of telling you to think about something else, or go stare at a rainbow and listen to Beethoven.
I have some new advice.
Keep thinking about it. Let me know how that works out. :)
It's just STUFF.
I've been in the military for almost 10 years and have moved more than 30 times in my life. It's amazing what we can live without.
Rhonda:
It's not about convincing yourself...you need to ask yourself - is there ANYTHING you can do to change this? If the answer is NO. You need to let it go. End of Story.
Can you stop this from happening in the future? Yes. This is a lesson learned. You will check your items more thoroughly in the future before you sell them. I'm truly sorry this happened. My mom sold my brother's original GI Joes at a yard sale - for $5 - there were 20 of them...and they were worth (and still are if you have any) $15 or more each....yeah...lesson learned.
If you can't fix it, change it or do anything about it - other than whine - you need to let it go. Learn from it!!!
I have done that three times...two of them weren't super big deals. I brought out a bunch of childrens books to sell...and in the stack was the fold out thing that was filled with all the new quarters for each state. Another time...I put out by mistake a book on the life of Jackie Bouvier (before she was a Kennedy)..could have kicked myself. THEN>>>>>another time.....2 REAL SILVER bowls that had cupids made into the bowls....I know now they were worth about $600 apiece. That was 2 years ago....and believe it or not....I just thought about it yesterday. And I guess there is no use crying over spilled milk....but how stupid of me...each time.
Depends on the value and what kind of person you are. If it's emotional you may be able to get it back by offering a refund. If it's just the cash and you're really a rotten person then you can lie and try an get it back to resell. I do not recommend this.
Sigh and research your stuff more carefully. Mistakes can be possible learning opportunities.
