K.
Hi K.,
I am a mother of a special needs child myself so I hope I can be of service.
I have a few website addresses you can try. Haven't looked at them in a while but they may have what you are looking for.
http://showeryourbaby.com/cotongo3.html
http://www.adaptivechild.com/special-needs-equipment.html (this one has feeding equipment located under adaptive equipment)
http://specialchildren.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?z...
http://usatechguide.org/techguide.php?vmode=1&catid=12
This one is mostly toys and activities but since you didn't mention the diagnosis I thought I would include it for future reference,
http://brighterstarts.com/page/ncig/OnLine_Catalog.html
http://www.disabilitysolutions.org/
Hope this helps.
K.