My dad wants to give me new Jeep tires for Christmas... that's great, I could use some brand new all terrain one's before the snow comes!!
BUT... I have this huge sinking feeling about this.
The first time my dad put tires on a car, I was in this moderately bad accident... pregnant... didn't think anything of it at the time.
Since my car was totaled, my dad put brand new tires on my other car (which I hadn't been driving, didn't need to)... sure enough, 10 DAYS AFTER THE FIRST ACCIDENT, got into another accident... MY car wasn't totaled, but it looked awful.
I didn't drive for a while after that. I had never been in one accident before, let alone 2 (the first one wasn't my fault, there was a stop sign missing, the second, my car had an issue where it would either stall out or lurch forward... yep, jumped forward right into another car).... ugh!!
SO NOW my dad wants to get me new tires... and I can't say I really want this to happen. All things happen in 3's... I really don't feel comfortable with this. I know it's silly, but... I KNOW we'll wreck this Jeep if he puts new tires on.
He even agreed that with my luck (and I have notoriously HORRIBLE luck)... I'll get in a wreck. And this is our 'family' car... I don't want to wreck the car, especially since the kids are always with me.
On the flip side, he seems hell bent on putting new tires on.
So what do I do? I know, to some, this seems really stupid... but it's a very real fear.
NOT a bad idea, bumping it into something on the way home... but with my luck, I'd do that, think I'm clear, and have a meteor land on top of us and squish us flat, LOL!!
You know the expression 'if you didn't have bad luck, you wouldn't have any luck at all'? That was written about ME ;)
Gotta know - is HE putting the tires on? If he is - he's doing something wrong. If he wants to get you tires, you can say yes, but he can buy they for you at whatever place and THEY will put the tires on!
:)
Have him give you the money for the tires and you buy them. That way technically he didn't put the tires on. Maybe that will break the curse?
Hah, just read Cheryl's response. Great minds think alike!
oooh R.!!!!
I get you!! I really get you!!!
How about him GIVING you the money and you buy the tires and have them installed? We LOVED TireVan....great prices and great service - came to the house to install too......so he can give you the money - you buy them and have them install??????
this way - it's not "him" buying them!!!
now, after you get the new tires on - don't drive differently!!! I know - hard, right? But stop thinking about the curse and just "BE!!" deal?
Call me when Roman goes down for his nap!! (please!)
I don't believe in luck (good or bad). If something is going to happen then it's going to happen. I don't believe in superstitions either. Your accidents are only a coincidence.
Skip the tires and get him to pay for something equally as expensive like your car payment, mortgage, electric bill, so you can but the tires. It's not good to drive so worried, sometimes being overly cauteous and worried while driving is J. as bad as driving without paying attention. its not worth it. Id ask for something else and tell him why, I'm sure since it's your dad he understands and loves your quirks=)
Maybe the bad luck doesn't come from him BUYING the tires, maybe it comes from him INSTALLING them.
So, compromise - let him buy the tires, and you'll pay the install fee from Discount Tire or Sears or wherever. (About $16/tire, at our local Discount Tire, anyway.)
Or, let him buy the tires, and help him by putting them on yourself. My mom and dad taught me that if you can change a baby, you can change a tire (and vice-versa): unfasten, jack her up, take the old one off, put the new one on, jack her back down, refasten. And do it all without getting "sludge" on your shirt.
Tires don't cause accidents, and things don't "always happen in 3's"!
If we could "figure out" luck and curses, then they wouldn't exist anymore right?
Luck is subjective. It's all in how you look at it.
Maybe you're lucky your dad can afford them and is giving you new tires?!
"I KNOW we'll wreck this Jeep if he puts new tires on." ??? Really? Ever hear of the book "Your Word Is Your Wand"?
Well, you can always take the bull by the horns and "run" into a tree going about 2 mph on your way home from getting the tires!!!!
Seriously, I had an ex-b'friend who would always scratch his car right after he bought it. he said that way he wouldn't work up anxiety wondering when the first scratch or dent would happen. he got it out of the way in an inconspicuous spot.
I don't think it's stupid, but I think you should take the tires!
Is he putting the tires on himself? Then no. If the professionals do it, then fine.
We had to put new tires on both of our SUV's last year. The first set we put on the night before we drove down to Williamsburg...it snowed on the way down! Thank God we put them on.
I was nervous as all get out though because they were brand new and the roads were slick...who knew? My other tires were bald apparently, but they were good to me!
I agree with Wickerparkgirl...take that puppy slowly into a curb or something and then it will count - right?
Uh, it's your car. If you want a professional to put the tires on, who is he to say otherwise? It's nice he wants to do it, but it's YOUR car where YOU drive YOUR family. If he doesn't understand, thank him, but say "no thanks." There are lots of people in my life who tincker, and that's nice at their own houses, but I wouldn't let them touch my stuff. It's generous of him, and if he wants to pay for all or some of your tire costs, great, but otherwise, graciously decline. A Christmas gift should not make you fear for your life.
ask him to instead put the money towards rent/mortgage and then you can pay to have the tires put on yourself.
Hi, R.:
Smudge the car with cedar and sage and make a blessing on it to
get rid of any bad energy the new tires might hold.
Just a thought.
D.
Is he actually putting the tires on himself? If not, then go for it. If so, DON"T DO IT!
Have you considered that if you don't put new tires on that you could be in an accident because your old tires are bald or nearly bald?
I also suggest that we often get what we expect. Your anxiety about the tires could be what's causing the accidents because you'll drive differently when anxious. Try saying over and over to yourself, "I am safe with my new tires."
