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Adaptive. Because it has to be. Life throws things at you all the time. Life with children is a combination juggling act and mystery theatre. We do the best we can, with the best intentions and hope for the best.

I have seen phenomenal people come out of the most destructive home environments and I've seen incredibly bratty, entitled, self-important idiots come out of idyllic homes. It is but one factor on an infinite number of variables.

Hard work & luck.

I think my kids could better answer this. :p My older two claim they raised themselves because I would never make a decision for them. Hey, I helped them find their decision criteria, help that weigh the value of each option, I just didn't pick one for them.

Thing is when their decisions are in their hands they have no one to rebel against but themselves. No one does that. I had very well behaved teens.

To most outside observers I seem very laid back in parenting. Apparently you are supposed to scream like a banshee instead of asking the child why did you choose to do that.

I guess you can say my parenting style is to make the child think about what they are doing. You can imagine I don't know what to do with kids under five. :p

Of course I think "what were they thinking?"....but I'm sure people think that about me too.

The thing that pops into my head is that show 'outrageous kid parties'.....the one I watched had this mother throwing her son a HUGE $30,000 party for graduating.....wait for it....preschool!!! My husband and I were *shocked* by what we saw. This little boy is going to grow up to be the most bratty, entittled, spoiled little sh!t EVER....and the mom thinks he's cute. An example? At the last minute he decided he wanted his ear pierced, so off they went and got this kid's ear pierced - no discussion of taking care of it, no making him think about it. He demanded and he received.

Non-Judgemental.

Dont tell me what to do with mine and you do whatever you want with yours!!! LOL

I always try not to judge. Its funny how i see/hear some parents talking about other kids that hit,talk back, push, shove, etc when they have a BABY! YOU HAVE NO CLUE what your child is gonna be like a year or two from now. Put yourself in the other parents shoes. My favorite is the "My kid will never be like that". Yeah...we have all been there.
My daughter is 4.5 and learning to share. For me the pushing and occasional hitting are to be expected, they do not bother me as much as WORDS. I would say i am the most strict about what comes out of her mouth and how she treats people.Lucky for me she is the queen on compliments and makes friends very easily. I have been very blessed so far ;)

I think people parent in the way they think works best for them.
Whether it's right or wrong.
People will often state what they "think" their 'parenting style' is, but that's rarely the case, because it's a matter of perspective.
I'm pretty sure someone's "parenting style" changes a great deal from toddler through teens through adulthood.
It's really none of your business nor should it concern you.

My "style" is middle of the road not passive and not dictator/authoritarian. And it changes slightly for each child because they are different in temperament.

I like it when natural consequences teach the lesson. And I try to correct my children with natural consequences...you don't pick up your toys they get put "away" by me for a few days...you draw with your markers someplace other than paper, you lose the privilege of using markers...etc.

Demanding respect, ettiquete, table manners, old school. Times outs are humiliating, they dont work for us. My children don't call adults by their names, it's always "Ms" I'm a parent and the boss, they can be my best friend after they will graduated college. My husband and I grew up the same way and it has worked extremely well for us. Different things work differently for each individual family with different rules.

My children gets a lot of love, but lots of rules and structure. We make a lot of sacrifices for me to stay home, no nannies or sitters - ever!

I've read a few parenting books, tried a few different styles, and realized I can't really commit to one particular style. My kid changes faster than I can learn the ways and methods of this style or that. I rely on my gut a lot. I use empathy combined with limit-setting. I give time-outs because they seem to work w/my daughter. Some of my family members criticize me for engaging in too much talk with my daughter when I am disciplining her; in other words I should just punish for behavior and then move on. I disagree. My kid is smart enough to understand and engage in conversation with me, so I try to talk things out with her in addition to providing an appropriate punishment. Sometimes I involve her in coming up with the punishment. Most days I feel like I'm making it up as I go along!

Yes I do... I am sure I will elaborate later when I have the time.

We use Love and Logic and have just recently started using a little of conscious discipline b/c that's what our daughter's preschool uses. We offer our daugther choices and during meltdowns she's required to go to her "safe spot" which is sort of like time out.

I do my own thing.
I like to try different methods and don't fit into one category of parenting styles.
=)

My style is Simplicity Parenting.