Son Is So Sweet

Hi BB
My son was very much like that and is ..now, at 11 1/2 (albeit not a teen) but getting there, he is still very sweet and says very endearing things from "you're as beautiful as sprinkle donut"
to " Mamma, keep me in your heart." and at night, "kiss kiss, I love you so much.. HUG"

I think and hope that if you continue to encourage your son's affection and endearing ways that he will continue to let you know how he feels. this, regardless of his age..

Sounds like you have a real sweetie..

Oh my gosh ... sounds like my son! My thinking is that because he was my first and I was an "older" mom, we've always had a special bond. He was extremely sweet as a little boy, always hugging me, his dad and little sister. When he was about five, he used his own money and got a ring out of a gumball machine - got down on one knee and asked me to marry him - put it on my right hand because he didn't want it on the finger with "daddy's ring" - I wore that ring for about 10 years until it finally broke! (Amazing for a ring that only cost a quarter!)

As for changing - he hasn't really changed that much. He's never really gone through a rebellious stage - although, he's had rebellious "moments" he's never really caused me any heartache. Additionally, he is by no means a "mama's boy."

As an 18 year old now, he is still very sweet, we actually have fun together; he isn't embarrassed to go shopping with me (for the most part!); and we are on the same page as far as sense of humor!!! He talks to me about the girls he goes out with and just about anything. He still hugs me when coming and going; tells me he loves me; sends me silly text messages; is very caring about others and is just a great kid all around. He is a very independent go-getter type of young man and I'm sure some day will make some lucky girl a great husband!!

My daughter, on the other hand, was extremely sweet when she was little but is now 15 (need I say more?) and if someone offered me a nickel for her, well.......

Great question!!!

Of course it is not realistic to think a teenager will want to cuddle with mom on the couch.

However, I see no reason why you can't be close and stay an integral part of his life through adulthood.

I love your post. I'm glad you're savoring him the way he is right now.

My boys are 20 and 18 and I have a wonderful age appropriate relationship with both. But now that they're both away at college, I DO think it would be nice if they were 5 again and wanted to curl up with me to watch the Lion King for the 10th time this week.

Ok, I'm over it.

:)

My adult son is a mama's boy--NO! Not, the sissy kind that gets picked on. He is a mama's boy in that we are pretty much all we have in life. My parents are gone and my sisters (his aunts) are estranged. I am divorced and his father is an aloof man big time.

We can talk for hours on a road trip, he askes my opinion on date choices, etc.

You are off to a great start. Don't push him away.

My 7 year old girl is still very sweet. Sometimes she sticks her tongue out at me and some time she nags at me until I say "What" and she tells me she loves me.

The change is so sweet for me, as my family background is to be strong and with little emotion.

My oldest - almost 13 - was never a cuddler. Even as a baby, he did not prefer to be held for very long. A simple hug is most likely to be of the 'one arm to the side' variety.

My second child is 11 and still a major snugglebug. I'm pretty sure he will never change. The only difference between when he was 5 and now is that if we're in public with other kids around he is less likely to take my hand like he often does when we're alone and walking.

Enjoy it while it lasts, but don't coddle him. You don't want him to be a mama's boy. That doesn't go over very well and can cause him to be bullied.

Around 8 or 9 is when they should stop with all the cuddling, and that is normal. Don't fuss at him when he doesn't want it anymore.

And yes, around 12 or so, when he gets difficult, just hold on for the ride. Teens are not sweet like 5 year olds, but you'll get through it!