Son Doesn't like Staying with Daddy in the Evenings.

That is a difficult thing when you breastfeed your baby. I can only sympathize and tell you that it gets better. Once they can take solids, sometimes that can keep the baby interested until you get home. Also, the more often they are alone together, the more your husband will learn his own soothing techniques. My husband has learned that if he puts our daughter on his shoulders and holds her legs, she calms down. He use to take baths with her. Sometimes though, at 8 months, she still cries for me. I always feel so guilty, but I know it happened with my older two when they were babies too and they don't seem too damaged from it (j/k).

Fresh air almost always calms a crying baby. I know it is cold here, but maybe daddy could bundle your son and take him outside for a few minutes.

Hi N.

I agree with what the other moms have said as far as how to deal with whats going on. But, I do have something to add because I've been through it......Ask your husband NOT to call you during these episodes. As you've said you HAVE to work, and you cant just close up and leave. So you hearing the baby scream and the frustration in your husbands voice is only leaving you feeling sad and helpless. There is nothing you can do to help so its pointless to call you and make you upset while your trying to concentrate on work. My daughter did this with my Husband and twice he actually brought her to my job, and HE was almost in tears because he couldnt make her stop, and he tried everything he could. Eventually he just got used to it and a little later on so did our daughter and she stopped crying so much. I wish you lots of Luck!
K.

Have you ever let Daddy feed Duncan at night while you are there? Maybe if you guys switch every other night doing to bedtime ritual then when you have to work Duncan won't think anything about it. And on the nights that it's daddy's turn you stay out of sight as best as you can. I hope this helps you out.

The same thing happened to me, just rest assured this behavior doesn't last very long. Soon, your baby will be fine with Daddy, and then it will be Me and Daddy time, and fun. Ask your poor husband to just be patient, and it will get better soon.

I think the idea to have Dave feed him on some of the nights that you are home is a good idea. You may want to try to establish some sort of routine with him as well, and have your husband try to do the same bedtime routine when you are at work. Babies like routine, and it may help him calm down quicker and adjust more easily. Another idea we used for our daughter- put her in her carseat carrier on top of the dryer, and turn the dryer on. We called it the car simulator! Just keep the lights low, and he'll probably be out in no time. If that doesn't work, but he likes car rides, you could always have Dave take him for a car ride until he is asleep, and then put him in his crib when he gets home. We used our swing a lot, too. We had a cradle swing, so if our daughter didn't like swinging one direction, we'd switch her to the other way, and sometimes it worked like magic! Hopefully this helps- I've had my husband call me at work with our little girl screaming in the background, too- it's no fun! The older he gets and the better routine you all have, the easier it will get as well. Best wishes!