My son is almost four and I can't get him to go poop on the potty on his own. I have him sit everyday before school and he normally goes. He gets a treat and a sticker on his chart. The rest of the day he never asks to go and constantly is making little poops in his pants. He doesn't initiate going poop in the potty on his own. We talk about rewards and being a big boy and he agrees but still I get poop in the pants. Almost four pair a day. Help me! The strangest part is that he used to be a stool withholder and now he goes all the time.
Put kids wipes in the bathroom it really helps. Encourage him to sit on the potty longer. Kids do not have full control of their body functions until they are about 7. IF you have real concerns speak to you pediatrician.
O.K. B.
This is what i tried. Right after my son eats I would watch him a half later he would go to his room and stand in his "poop spot". So I would say come on lets go on the toilet. At frist he would really angry but then I would doesn't feel better in the toilet then in your under wear. Once i got him to under stand that it was smooth sailing
N.
I had the same problem. Peeing was no problem and he would not poop in the potty. What I did was empty his pullup into the potty and explain that poop belongs in the potty, and let him flush. Let him see your poop after you are done to reinforce it (I know it is disgusting, but it works). He may be resisting because he's not comfortable with the potty situation. We used our big potty, with a wide comfortable stool with a base big enough for him to turn around on, and was tall enough for his feet to be flat footed when he sat down. We also used an insert. Just encourage him every day, he will get the hang of it soon. It took us about a month or so before we got over the poop hurdle, even longer to get him to use a toilet that he was not used to.
I had alot of trouble with my son who is now 16. I had such trouble with him I thought he would never go in the toilet. It was such a power struggle with him. He was about 4 1/2 or 5 when he finally started going in the bathroom. It wasn't me that changed him around though, after a while he just didn't like going in his pants and stopped.
Hang in there!
I have had a similar situation with my son... he really didn't use the potty regularly for poop until he was already 5...what a struggle with him.
What seemed to work for us was basically bribery, lol. We had made a deal with him that for every 5 days that he went poop on the potty (with no accidents in between) that he could get a small toy. We would get him $3 matchbox cars and such. This went on for about a month and about 3-4 toys. He was very excited to tell us everyday that he did poop on the potty. He still usually tells mew when he has done it. Its only been about 6 months but I don't mind him telling me because he doesn't go everyday and at least this way I know he is going regularly.
Good Luck,
K.
HI B.,
My son withheld his stool from an early age because of the fear of hard, painful stools. After a year on Miralax, he now goes at a regular time every night. He still rather not go and sometimes he doesn't make it to his scheduled time and has "skid marks" in his underwear. When he does go, it's usually a little amount and then once a week, he goes a lot. That fear or anxiety over going to the bathroom seems to be very hard to let go of. I would say that your son is still withholding and not emptying out- just going a little to satisfy the reward and also, because he is having hard poops, he may be a little constipated. I would talk with a doctor and maybe use Miralax (no prescription needed). This will soften his stool and make it easier to go. If you'd rather not use medication, definitely up his fiber intake. That may help. Lots of fruits and veggies usually work. My pediatrician also said it was safe to give Benefiber with his vitamins. Try putting him on the toilet a few extra times a day and asking him to go before he has skid marks/poops. Hope this helps!
