Dear T., Wow, you are really going through a lot! Of course you are concerened for your son! That would be natural. He is starting a new and wonderful chapter in his life and things are going to change between the two of you. Now he will have a wife and she will (and should) come first in his life. It's not easy watching your children grow and go especially when you are going through a divorce. Take a deep breath and keep your own council. Don't talk about your thoughts of uneasiness of them getting married to anyone that knows either one of them. Even if they are made with good intentions, and only because you love your son, anything you say can (and will in my experience) come back to haunt you. And the hurt feelings will never go away. I know they say sticks and stones blah blah blah, and words will never hurt me....but we all know that words can cut like a knife...even when you don't intend for them too. You don't want to loose your son, you want to gain a daughter. So buck up, smile until it hurts, be as involved as you can, and in the long run, it will all be good!! Take care of yourself...best wishes!!