So Tired of It!!!

FIrst of all, block them on Facebook. Your personal / family dirty laundry should not be aired on there for all to see. That's immature BS in my opinion.

Next, since you are obviouly dealing with immature people, make some adult rules for them to follow. Do this with your husband. If they don't follow the rules, then they can't come over. If they don't like it - fine. Let them absorb it and then make their move. They'll be angry at first, but once they realize that you are serious and not taking their BS anymore, they will back off a little.

Good luck!

You cannot let these people walk all over you guys - if they can, they will.

I would have some convenient errands to run when your SIL comes over...

You posted before that you can sleep at night because you apologized.
You cannot control what anyone else says or does.
All you can control is your own actions and words.
It sure seems like your MIL has a beef with you, considering she threw you OUT 4 weeks after giving birth to her grand daughter.
Be a wonderful wife and mother. Invite his mother and sister for dinner, coffee, whatever. Be polite. Be respectful. Don't be a doormat or a whipping post.
Apparently your husband is NOT going to make a huge stand about this. He is most likely wanting everyone to play nice. That includes you. You cannot get into a my family/your family contest. his family is never going to be like your family. but you owe it to your husband to make this work. And, yes, sometimes that means sitting there with a plastered-on smile "acting" like all is well. Sometimes if you walk the walk enough, you start talking the talk....know what I mean.
You need to FORGIVE, and more importantly FORGET. Now, I'm not saying you are not wiser and more savvy regarding what your MIL is capable of--but really--you need to move past it. Fake it til you make it. Never put your husband in a position of choosing "you or them".

Please get him into family counseling. Get him to talk about all of this. You talk about all of this. The counselor can tell him about the manipulation.

I am wondering if your husband is getting depressed. You must get him help or they'll send him over a cliff.

Good luck,
Dawn

You can't put a stop to it. Have errands to run while your SIL is over.

Get your husband into family and/or couples counseling so that he can learn how to deal with HIS mother and sister. This will also teach you how to set boundaries - BOTH of you to set boundaries - and learn to deal with family issues TOGETHER.

Give yourself some credit. You CAN handle it. You just don't want to and I get it.

At one time - you were living with your MIL. That's what started the problems....I understand your family has helped you. His family has to. You got to see both sides....take a step back. take a deep breath. this is YOUR marriage. Get into counseling so you can learn to communicate with each other, help him cut his apron strings and deal with the family issues. YOU CAN DO IT

You need to disengage. No more drama. Block them on Facebook, stop talking with them on the phone. Don't answer emails. Yes, it's rude. But it works. Trust me, I've been down this road with my MIL. My husband has never been close with her and once I really got to know her I understood why. She has wronged my husband and I many times over the years, causing us to pull away. But once we had a baby she wanted to be super close, not because she particularly cares about us but because she feels entitled to do the whole grandma thing. She thought she and I were going to chat on the phone every day just because I had a baby. Nope. She thought I would read emails she sent about baby advice. She thought I would plan holidays with her. Negative. My husband handles all of that and I am not involved. I put up with a certain amount of visiting and will join in on phone calls every once in a while if I'm up to it. And i am perfectly civil and pleasant during those times. But that is all. We do not have a real one on one relationship because I refuse to get sucked into her drama any more. I suggest YOU do the same! Good luck!

Family drama! I say just step back and out. In other words, don't communicate with them on Facebook, or e-mails. If they call and you feel like talking to them, then answer. If not, then don't. It takes two sides to have a fight - just don't be one of those sides. I'm not saying okie doke everything, I am saying ignore them and keep them out of your life. If they want to see the kids, they can arrange a time to pick them up and bring them back. Doesn't require your involvement!