Breathe :) :) :)
The IRS can wait. In fact, they usually COUNT on waiting a year (recouping from the next year). You won't need to wait that long, as you can get it straightened out when you get back. IF it's not a mistake and he owes 1k, just set up a payment plan... but you'll first need to make sure that he actually owes, and they're not just typo-ing (happens). It'll probably take a few weeks to straighten out if you don't have an accountant you can go "Here :D!" to.
Which brings me to point B:
I can't pay bills on time. Never have, probably never will. When I was sinlge, I took care of that facet of my personality by having an accountant. 10 years ago it was a straight $50 a month or something like 3% of my paycheck. She (or he, I had a couple over the years) collected my paychecks, paid my bills and deposited the remainder in my account and mailed me a spreadsheet. Easy peasy lemon squeezy. Adhd-girl-w-perfect-credit.
What I CAN do is financial planning. Short term, long term, THAT I'm good with. But I can't pay bills to save my life.
My husband CAN pay bills on time, but he can't do financial planning to save his tucus. "HON, why on EARTH would you keep money on a card with 11% interest, when we have a card with 8%? MOVE it!!" didn't need to come out of my mouth because I'd "catch" the "dumb" move and shift it, and "WHY didn't you pay your student loans??? The late fee is more than the amount you owe!" never came out of his, because he pays all the bills.
There are many (ahem MANY) things wrong with my 10year marriage, but money isn't one of them. He pays the bills, I go through our finances ever 3 months and reorder them. ((Now, one of the things wrong with my marriage is the DISDAIN my husband feels toward my total and utter lack at being able to pay bills on time / "I wouldn't be able to make it without him"... but that's why I had an accountant. And why, when we get divorced I'll just hire another one. He's periodically tried to "make" me pay the bills (to 'learn me', or something ;), but I dig in my heels. That is NOT something I'm good at. If you want me to pay the bills, hon, I'm hiring an accountant to do it. Period. I'll call all our creditors when you're laid off, I'll consolidate student loans, I'll talk to insurance companies, call the IRS, wade through our finances -things that FREAK him out- but I will not, not, NOT be responsible for PAYING the bills. I don't care how "easy" it looks to him, it's just not easy for me. Conversely, it's SUPER easy for me to make phone calls, harass our medical insurance, etc., although those things give him ulcers. TEAMWORK.))
((Ahem. With Dawn on this one. MAIL IS TO BE OPENED BY SHE WHO PAYS THE BILLS. Period. No such thing as private mail in a marriage.))
If I may make a suggestion... use the vacation to spend a few hours figuring out WHO is going to be responsible (on a trial basis of 3 or 6 months) for handling your finances. You may set it up like us (he pays the bills, I organize and plan... might mean YOU do a and he does b, or you do b and he does a), or you may take on everything yourself, or you may decide to hire an accountant for part or all of the above. REGARDLESS of which you pick, it's NOT a slight on anyone. :) No nagging necessary. It's like car repairs. If one of you is good at them AND enjoys it, let that person do it. If neither of you are good & enjoy it, you take your car into the shop.
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One last thing to consider: (NOT saying you "should" just how we do it)
We have SEVERAL checking accounts through the same bank.
Checking
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- Incoming money/Deposits (all our checks, returns, financial aid, ANY incoming gets deposited into this account). We don't ever use a card on this account. Money gets distributed into other account FROM this account, but never directly spent.
- Mortgage and Bill Pay. From the deposit account, straight off, we pull the mortage and bill money and stick it there.
- His Money
- My Money
- Kiddo's school expenses
Savings
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OSF (Oh Sh*t Fund). Every paycheck, we drop money into this account. It's to cover the random things that ALWAYS happen. Car repairs, roof leaks, dishwasher breaks, birthday presents when we're strapped, medical expenses... the extra expenses that just NEED to be spent. Oh shoot, just had to pay $100 at the ER out of "my" money. Okay, get home, move $100 from the OSF account into my account with the note ER 7/3 asthma attached to it. Oh shoot, Dishwasher breaks. Well, we don't have the money in the OSF account, we'll be washing dishes by hand until we EITHER AGREE to move more money into it, or it builds up naturally.
My savings
His savings
OUR savings
MY & HIS money is inviolate. We can spend or save our individual money HOWEVER we want to, whenever, with no questions asked. We each "get" the same amount every paycheck and every "windfall". I staked 2k away at one point to buy a macbookpro. Well the durn dishwasher broke. So we washed dishes by hand, because spending 500 out of my 2k was NOT a (resentment filled) option until we had 500 in the OSF account. Ditto, when I had something like $3 in my account and he had 1k and we needed the brakes done on my car, I rode the bus until we'd staked $275 into the OSF account. BUT BUT BUT in either case we COULD have agreed to dip into long term savings (OUR savings) to get a new machine or fix the breaks. We decided we didn't need to. The dish scrubber and the bus were viable options. Now... when we had to pay some medical bills... we decided to pull from EACH mine, his, and ours. Keeping things separate keeps things "equal" and keeps everything above board/ resentment free.
The accounts are all linked. We just sort it all out every 2 weeks. We know $300 for groceries (cash), $100 for him, $100 for me, $50 for kiddo's school account, $1500 for the mortgage and bill pay, and then the remainder sits int he incoming account until the END of the 2 weeks and we move it into the OSF account. Every 3 months, we move half of the OSF into "our" savings. When we get a tax refund, "job" money (whether it's $100 or $1000) we split it in half and we each "get" half of the half, and the other half stacks into the various accounts.
But he pays the bills. I "just" organize everything.