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If you find it difficult to tell someone you need a fan to aid you in sleeping, maybe that's a sign that you shouldn't be sleeping with this guy yet, don't you think?
I have been seeing this new guy for a while now, and he has been bugging
me to spend the night. I want to but, I have a problem and I am not sure on how to approach him on it. I have slept with a fan running year round for many years now.
I am so used to it I can not get any sleep with out it along with it I have trouble sleeping to begin with and with out the fan it will only make matters worse. So does anyone have any ideas on how I can tell him about this? with out me sounding silly....
well the outcome of me telling him was fine. He gets the fan out everytime he wants me to stay, i think its sweet..... thanks everyone for your support on this really motivated me to tell him.......
If you find it difficult to tell someone you need a fan to aid you in sleeping, maybe that's a sign that you shouldn't be sleeping with this guy yet, don't you think?
I think that it definitely not a silly thing...a lot of people have things they have to do to get some sleep. I also am a person with sleep issues... Simply ask him if he has a fan and explain to him why. He should understand.
Amen to all responses!
I always have to have the "white noise" but I also have nights when I can't breathe (or at least I THINK I can't) unless I actually feel the air moving. I live with central air, it has nothing to do with how hot or cold it is outside. I also needed it most when I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I have gone thru times of needing the fan in the middle of winter. (It's not just me around here, lol!) Just tell him. Most people sleep with some sort of noise these days anyway with all the computer humming in our lives.
Just tell him ,it's really not silly. My sister, best friend and myself all need a fan on to sleep. I need to feel the air moving or I feel as if I can't breath well , and my husband has never minded the fact that it makes for great cuddling in cooler months.
We all have our little quirks , and there are much stranger ones than this , lol.
Maybe have your first overnight at your house, that way you can just turn the fan on and see if he says anything....my husband never did. Plus you get the "home-field advantage". :)
just tell him really it's no big deal i have been sleeping with the fan on for years i always just tell the guy that hey i can only fall asleep to the sound of a fan.every guy i have met so far does the same thing. it's not silly lots of people do it trust me.
it is not a big deal, tell him you need a fan and bring it. If he has a problem tell him you cannot spend the night. problem solved.
You had better just tell him, because this isn't something you want to tell him later. Plus, he may take it wrong if you keep leaving. He may not mind, you won't know until you ask.
Stay the night and take the fan, even a smaller portable one if needed. A fan is not that big of an issue, and to you it may seem funny, but it's not something that is totally uncommon. Go for it girl, get that air.
My boyfriend sleeps with the fan going too. It really isn't that strange. Many people have something they do when they go to bed. It's like having a window open or no matter the time of year they sleep with a blanket on. My mother can't have her feet covered or the bedroom door shut when she goes to bed. Just explain to him that you need the fan on. He probably wont care and if he does why bother with him then.
Why not have the first sleep over at your place, if you're worried about your daughter being there arrange a sleep over for her at a friend's house. And it isn't silly to sleep with a fan, it helps you sleep because it is "white" noise. My girlfriend leaves a radio on all night for herself and I leave a fan on to drown out my husband's snoring.
When my husband and I first started dating I thought about how he'd think I was so weird because I slept with a fan on all night no matter what. I can hardly sleep without one or some sort of noise. One day we got to talking about it and he looked at me like I was a little weird but didn't say anything. We've been married for almost 5 years and he's slept with a fan on every night!! He can't sleep without one now too!! So I don't think it sounds silly at all.
Be straight forward, i do the same and keep the windows open all winter. I have upstairs and downstairs. My duaghters keep the house hot so I hae o keep the window open to equal out the hot air lol
That's funny, when i started dating my husband he used to need the fan on at night to sleep too. Winter time and all. At first it used to bother me, but after awhile i didn't mind. I think that you should come out and tell him. I have found that sometimes the best way to approach things like this, is to use humor, make a joke of it, let him know that you will stay but only if he has a fan, oh, how i cant sleep without a fan on, ha ha. Something as minor as that he should not have a problem with. I know i didnt.
I agree with Lisa. Have the first overnight at your house. In this warm weather he may not even think it's out of the ordinary. If he does mention it then just say you need the noise to sleep. Then it should be easier to bring it up to having one at his house too. Or if you don't want him to stay overnight at your house because of your daughter then just take the fan along the same as you pack your overnight bag. If he really cares about you he won't think it's strange. Just another cute quirk. :)
my sister is the same way and has been for years. recently my hubbie and i picked up the habit because we found that it helps our one-year-old sleep better (she sleeps with us). jmho, if you're at the point of spending the night with the guy, you should be at the point of just coming out and saying, "by the way, i like to sleep with a fan on. got one at your place or should i bring mine?" many people like white noise to fall asleep. he won't think you're wacky.
DON'T THINK YOU'RE SILLY!!! My husband had this habit and when we met told me about it. It's no big think really... and actually I've gotten so used to it now, that I too LOVE sleeping with the drone of the fan! ...it seems weird when we don't have it acually - J.
I have the same problem I have been sleeping with a fan for years. But I wouldnt worry about it because i spent to many night not sleeping and it sucks. So i wouls just explain to him that you use it like one of those sound machines and if he really likes you e will understand. When me and my boyfriend first got together I would bring along my own really little stand up fan and he never really said anything and now its six years later and he just pokes fun at me for it. But hey you might get really lucky and he might use something like that to sleep to. Hope it helps you good luck
I do the same thing, spring, summer, winter and fall my fan is on and I just started doing this during my pregnancy I got so used to it I can't sleep without it, hubby got used it, and your bf will too, theres nothing wrong with it just tell him it helps you sleep, I am sure he will understand =)
I also am a fan lover. But it drives my husband nuts,,, too bad for him ;)
Does this guy have a ceiling fan in his bedroom? If not, why not just go out and buy a portable, small fan, agree to stay over and just bring it with you. You could always joke that its for in case things get too hot a sweaty between the two of you. Then when you are snuggled in with your man and defenses are down, just say do you mind if I turn this on, it helps me sleep. Honesty is always best, and by that point anyway I'm sure he is going to say yes to keep you there beside him.
Its not silly, its part of you!
I am the same way with the fan in the room.
I take it everywhere and all I say when people look at me is:
Hey look I even come with my own fan!!
Most people laugh it off.
And heck if you can't be silly in front of him you can't really be yourself!!
Have fun with it... and good luck.
I think he will be fine with it.
Just remember too, you could have a worse habit than a fan in the bedroom!
Just ask him if he sleeps with a fan ...both me and my boyfriend have our own fan on each other all night we can't sleep without it. the worst that is going to happen is he will laugh right...I highly doubt that. if he really likes you he will probably tell you he will buy a fan for you...believe me your worry will be all over and he will just be happy you are staying the night ...finally lol
Wow!!!..LOL...I cannot believe how many people there is that use a fan also..I'm also a fan lover, have been all of my life, and recently I remarried to a wonderful man, he also had been used to having a fan, because he had no a/c...he always ran it on low..but after getting married, he put in window a/c's, and I still ran the fan..he didn't like it at first on medium, but, I also feel like I cannot breathe with the fan off...I have sleep apnea and Narcolepsy, so the mask that I use for the CPAP makes me feel like I'm smothering...so I understand what you and everyone is saying, I believe that he will understand once you let him know that the white noise helps you fall asleep and breath better...then you'll wonder why you let this problem bother you..:):)...good luck, Bonbon