Bless your heart! I've been there. I am the proud mother of four (8, 6, 4, and 1 year old). Each of my children have had different sleeping patterns. I do recommend reading some books on the subject...There are tons available. Just go to the library, bookstore, or get online and check some out. The best thing I have learned is to allow my babies to cry themselves asleep at naptimes and bedtimes. This is truly an art each baby has to learn. I make sure they are fed, changed, and comfortable and approaching their tired stage. Then, I put them in their crib and let them cry themselves to sleep. Sometimes it takes them a while (yes, up to 30 minutes at times), but they do fall asleep. And each time should get a little easier. I am always amazed that when I do this during the day, the night time is a breeze! They just sleep better and longer. It's so worth it to me.
Some mothers aren't willing to do this...If you're not, that's fine. You're the mama! And, you'll do what's best for you, your husband, and your sweet baby. Enjoy your precious little one!!!