My 4 year daughter has been sleepingin my bed since I "disappeared". Last year I woke up in the middle of the night in severe pain and was taken to the hospital only to find out I had a kidney stone and would be hospitalized to take care of it. Now my daughter fears that I will leave her in the night and not come back. I have tryed redoing her room and reassuring her that I would never leave and I would wake her up if I had to go somewhere but this has not helped. Any advice would be helpful
u just have to try to break the habit cold turkey, put her in her own bed, and each time she gets up put her right back in. if u wake up in the middle of the night with her sleeping with u, just pick her up and put her right back into her room. i hope this helps
i read somewhere that as soon as they walk in you are supposed to take them by the hand and walk them back. no eye contact or talking. just lead them back to their own bed no matter how many times it takes. one of the women i work with says this worked with her younger one. eventually they get the hint. as long as their needs are met (bathroom, water) of course. you'll be able to tell if "i'm thirsty" is really a ploy or not.
Hi M. My name is D.. I understand the issue that you are facing. My sons are going through something similar. Their father abandoned us. I had made a game out of by playing hide and seek and treasure hunt games. depending on the age yo can use words or pictures as clues to where you are hiding in the house(making it easy) and leaving a treat of some kind with each clue as a reward for reaching the next clue. I realize this might not work for all cases but it worked for me and two of my friends with the same issue.
You can also show your child that you are there by periodically going to their bedroom and just letting them see you and please feel free to overload your child with I Love You's, and I am glad you are my child. may sound silly to some but all children need to hear it as much as possible. hey! dont we all? I hope this helps you. feel free to write me back. God Bless, D.
I have had the same problem with my 5yr old since she was born!! I had talked with the pedeatrician and basically he told me what I already knew. Don't let them see they are winning over u, ur child gets up walk them back immediatley to there bed. They will scream,kick,and say ur a mean mommy but trust me it's so worth it. My daughter used to make her self throw up to try to get over on us,I had finally got so frustrated I gated her room and she ended up finally sleeping in her bed. That only took one night because she hated being gated. I really think it's harder on us then the kids,because we hate to see our children cry or be upset but I am so glad I did it.
HI MY NAME IS LATISHA AND I ALSO HAVE 4 KIDS.AND I'M A STAY AT HOME MOM, AND I LOVE IT I HAVE TWO GIRLS AND TWO BOYS THEY ARE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.
I would consider taking your little girl to counseling so she can talk about her fears of abandonment. Maybe a therapist could suggest some therapeutic activities you and your daughter could do to build back her trust. Don't be too hard on yourself. She will get over it, in time.
