J.,
First off, congratulations to you!!
I remembered when our daughter was at that age, she just loved to be held. I started singing lullaby and humming songs to her and immediately then, she would fell asleep! My husband and I then realized that perhaps having soothing music in the background everytime she sleep might help her doze off herself.
One thing all parent(s) need to remember is that infants and/or toddlers can sense when their parent(s) are stressed, sad or worked out. Hence, you might want to give it a try to just forget about your worries and sorrow for that few minutes and just endure those moments with your little angel.
The funny thing is, our daughter is now 4yrs old, we still played her music at night and at times she would come to either one of us and asked to be held and rub on her back at night time. I guess, she just liked the feeling of being touched by us and probably too felt that she is being protected.
I hope this would help you a bit. Don't worry, be happy!!
Regards,
R. Davenport
Glen Allen, VA