Sleeping - Port Saint Lucie, FL

I went through the same thing, when my oldest daughter was that age, I couldn't put her in her own room until my second child was born, she was about 2 1/2 to 3 years old.

I can understand that you want her near you, but if you don't do it now and move her into her room.. You may never get her out. If you need to grab a baby monitor and use it. This will be good for all of you.

About me: I am 27yrs old. I have a son that is 15mths old and one on the way.

They are only little for a little while. Most cultures allow thier children the comfort of sleeping with the family. (for goodness sake, many people allow their dogs in the bed!!!).... SOOOO---Why wouldn't we allow our children either in our bed or in our room??? Do what feels right to you. I never heard of a 17 year old wanting to sleep in his/her parents room!

There is nothing wrong with her still being in your room. I have a 7 yr old who stayed in my room till she was 3. I also now have a 5 mos old and a 2 yr old that still sleep in my room. Both have their own cribs, but it is my preference to keep them in there. I can hear them better at night and it gives me more comfort knowing that they are there. Keep her there till you feel that she is ready to be on her own. She will let you know.

It is hard letting the little ones go from your room. Don't be hard on yourself, you get use to it. But maybe you can try a good monitor too. I just got a new one that has a camera to see them as well as hear them. It does has night vision too so if I hear something I can check on the camera before going into his room. Mine was from Mobi, I got it on ebay for $129.
It retaills for $189-200...

I have 4 boys now, 8,7 3, and now a 2mth old, so I know what it is like.

Good luck, you will enjoy your sleep and peace of mind knowing they are ok if you can see them too!

Dianna
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Hi R.,
As a mom I think we listen to "society" and "other moms" too much. We tend to try and base our decisions and parenting styles on these two things. If this scenerio works well for you and your baby girl, Go For It! I wish you the best. Trust that you know exactly what your little one needs. Have a great weekend

R., if having your little one in the same room is something you like, go with it. You and she will be independent of one another faster than you you'll believe when you look back upon it. We have a 10 year old daughter and we still build 10-15 minutes of snuggle-in-the-big-bed time into our morning routine. And ya know what, the rest of the day, my big girl is completely (even insanely) independent.

Do you have a baby monitor?? I know that I can't sleep unless I hear my babies breathing or snoring for that matter!!! lol , my husband teases & says that they'll be off to college with their baby monitors !!! but it does beat not having our privacy & I still get to know they are ok ..

Dear R.,
I would have loved to co-sleep with my child but it never worked. He was too noisy and so was I. Neither of us got any rest.

As long as the both of you are happy, I don't see a reason anyone needs to change. You have to do what works for you and your family.

Good Luck!!
K.

I felt the same way with my son, as he was a preemie and came home on an apnea machine. But was off the machine for 7 months already by the time he was one.

I knew that the separation was more my problem than my son's so what I ended up doing was moving my son and his crib into his room and slept on a spare bed in his room for the first week.

I just wanted to make sure he was fine and was comfortable being in his room at night, in the dark. I'm glad I did it too because it was not until then that I realized the street light actually shined into his room. We ended up taking a shrub out from outside his window so it wouldn't cast a shadow into his room (who knows if it would scare him) and also got thicker curtains for his window.

Anyway, he was fine the whole week, and I got to a comfort level that he was okay in his room. From there, I moved back to my room and used the baby monitor. And slowly weaned myself from getting up several times a night to check on him. Now, we all sleep through the night in our own rooms.

My daughter slept with me for the first eight weeks, mainly because I was breastfeeding, she was colicky, and my husband refused to let her cry even for a second so I could get her sleeping in her crib. I was scared for her safety; we were sleeping in a recliner, and she was getting more active. Also, I had a sister who died from SIDS. I did some research on it, and not only does SIDS tend to run in families, but it also is statistically higher in Native American babies, and my husband is part Native American. It wasn't an "I don't want her sleeping with me" thing for me, I was really scared for her safety. When I finally put my foot down with hubby, it took a good two days of not letting her sleep anywhere else but in her crib. She almost outlasted us, but finally she started sleeping in her crib. Those two days were so rough on all three of us, and I swore "Never again". I felt like I should have started her off in the crib so she didn't have to make such a difficult transition. I did miss her sleeping with me, A LOT, but I got over it because I knew it was best for her to be in her own crib. Now, she's nine months old, and about once a week, usually on Sundays, I let her take one nap in my lap. It's our lazy Sunday ritual together ;) We get the closeness, but it isn't so much that it spoils her sleeping in her crib.

Separation is hard but it's all about growing and growing with your child. I had a bit of the same problem. My son was in our room for a long time too. I wasn't getting much sleep, I kept getting up to make sure he was still breathing. I had gotten a toddler bed put in his room and slowly started to put him in his own room but once in a while he stayed in mine til I got used to him being in his own room. It was hard but i finally mastered it. I couldn't go cold turkey, Just knowing that I could have in my room whe ever I wanted helped alot.
Good luck to you. Maybe this will work for you too.

If you are getting sleep and so is the baby, I don't see anything wrong with it. Take your time...enjoy having her near you. Pretty soon she will be too big to be in a crib and will have to go to her own room.

Hi R.,
My name is K. 27,wife,mother of 3,karim 2 1/2,karie and Nicolas 3 � weeks old,and also from NY.i understand you just feel unsecure leaving her in her room by her self.My oldest son Karim slept in our room for 2 years. since I hade the babies I turned his room into the nursery and he as been sleeping there since.Do not worry, having her in your room is not a crime but just don't wait to long before you get her use to her room.

Good luck!

Hi R.,

My husband has a 32 year old (had him when he was barely 16), and we have a 3 year old and a 12 week old. My 3 year old started sleeping with us once we put him in a toddler bed and he could get out of his room. We never had a problem with him sleeping in his own room up to that point. It has been a gradual move, but he now sleeps in our bed every night. My husband keeps reminding me that he is only small once and how much I will miss it when he gets older. I know society says don't let them do it, but I have to agree with him. I see it even more clearly now that we have a second one and I look back at how quickly the 3yr old has grown. If you all enjoy it and it doesn't hurt your marriage, then let it be. I love the one comment of people letting thier dogs sleep with them, but not thier children. How true is that! So the dog rates higher than our children? It's sad that our country is so out of touch with family. Look at all the other cultures that have close ties to thier children and families. Maybe we are the backward ones?

If it makes you feel better, then ultimately it will make your daughter feel better. Our son is 7 years old and he STILL makes his way in between my husband and I during the early morning hours on occasion. It isn't an every night thing, but if it makes him a more secure person, so be it. I love the cuddle time and so does he. Keep this in mind, your children are only little once...don't push them away just because convention says that they should be sleeping in their own crib/bed by themselves. You do what's best for YOU and YOUR FAMILY...end of story.

I will say this...when my daughter was born, she wanted no part of us. She wanted to be in her crib, in her room for naps and for nighttime sleeping. She did not want to be rocked or cuddled. At first I feared that she would not be a very loving child, but I can assure you, she is a cuddle bug now! She still wants to be in her bed alone at night though!

Good Luck and remember, do what's best for you and your family! ;)

Why do you have to put her in her own room??

Hi R. my name is B. and I have a soon to be 17 month old little boy named Jaxson. I too wanted him with me in the room at all times but I did the transition at my pace. He slept with us until he was about 7 months and then in our room but in his crib until he was one then we moved the crib back into his room and I slept in their for about the 1st week. For me it was slow and comforting for the both of us (especially me!) But it is better to get them used to things younger than older because then they really start to object since they know/sense more. I hope i helped a bit good luck.

Thanx for the heads up, my daughter will be turning 1 on Saturday, she is in my room now in her crib, but we will be moving her out soon. I have a feeling I will be going through the same. I wish I could just keep her in there cause I like to check on her in the middle of the night. But, I know that is not the best thing for her, or my marriage. Sorry I dont have any advice, good luck. Let me now how it goes.

If you like having her near you, then you do not have to move her. You know she is safe, no worries about anyone breaking into your house at night. Infants sleep better and have decreased risk of SIDS when they can hear their mother's heartbeat at night. As children grow, they still need to feel close to you. Many adults sleep better when they are close to another person as well.

My daughter is almost 7 months and I gradually brought her into her room. She sleeps very well in her room. My other daughter almost 4 yrs, comes into my bed in the middle of the night on and off. We try to reward her with stickers for staying in her bed. She gets stickers for good behavior & then after so many stickers, gets a prize.

We also moved here about a yr ago from NJ leaving all of our family behind.

Hey R. C:

I understand how you feel, my son is now 2 1/2, but I had the same fears when he was your daughter's age (I wanted to keep his crib as close as possible). What I did to ease my worries was purchase a baby monitor, now there are monitors on the market that come with a video camera so you can 'see' and hear your baby in the other room and they are very economical (I purchased mine from Sears). This really helped me. The first couple of nights were hard but eventually I was comfortable. I hope this helps. Good Luck!

Hello R.. I have the exact same problem. My daughter also just turned one and still sleeps in my room. I'm paranoid because she was a preemie and she was on oxygen and an apnea monitor for so long. She has been off both for a while now but I still cant bear the thought of her being so far away. Dont feel bad, because I dont. Your daughter will move to her own room in due time. Why rush things if they are working for you. Go with your gut feelings, Im sure it has never steered you wrong!