Hi! I'm a 1st time mom and I have a beautiful 10 month old son and I just found out I'm expecting my second child. My son has pretty much always been a good sleeper but the last 2 weeks have been horrible. He wakes up anywhere from 4-5 times during the night. He doesn't want to eat. He would sometimes do this and all I would have to do is give him his pacifier and lay him back down and things would be fine. Now, I'm having to pick him up, rock him, and try to lay him back down. Sometimes that doesn't even work, so then I just take him back to bed with me.(because I need sleep too) I'm wondering if his teeth are bothering him, or if it's just a phase he's going through. He really has been very cranky while teething, he has 2 on bottom, 2 on top and two more teeth coming in on the top. I would appreciate any suggestions anyone might have. Thanks a bunch!
A big Thank you to everyone who responded to my post. I took little Mr. to the Dr today to rule out an ear infection (he's had a few) and the Dr said his ears look beautiful. The Dr said he's probably going through night time separation anxiety. He recommended exactly what quite a few of you did. Let him cry it out. He advised to check on him after 15 minutes or so and let him know I'm there. Well...... I put him to bed at 7:19 and at 8:17 the crying began. It was tough but I didn't pick him up. :) It's 9:18 now and he's been alsleep for about 20 minutes, so keep your fingers crossed. Thanks again for your help. It was greatly appreciated.
you answered it yourself. Probably still teething, but never take them to bed with you.Get some baby orajel and put it on his gums and leave him in his bed. Is he still in a crib? If so, you don'thave to worry about him getting up or hurting himself. Don't let him make your schedule
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We went through this with all 3 of my boys. I co slept with the oldest one because his dad was in Basic Training and we didn't have a crib in the room we were sharing where ever we lived. Sometimes at my families, sometimes at his families houses. But once we moved to our first station he was fine to return to his crib.
When DS#2 came along we co slept again cause he had always been so sick and became accustomed to sleeping on one of us. That was a mistake. He stayed in our bed for another year and a half.
With Ds#2 we just kept him in his room and made sure he had pain medication for his aches. We still co slept occassionally but for the most part he could stay in bed.
Hello, I hope you got a good night's sleep last night! I had the same problem when my son was teething. I thought he had an ear infection because he acted like he was in so much pain. It was not an ear infection at all. He was teething and it put presure on his ear drums. I would try giving him a warm bath at nights and using a calming lotion on him. I would also use just a bit of tylenol to help him with his pain. It could be from the new sibling coming, but it sounds more like teething. I hope this works and have a great day! If you need to talk sometime let me know.
He probably senses something is different or has heard you talking about the new baby...or he could be teething, having bad dreams...a number of things...sometimes ears hurt with teething or they get a runny nose, temp. I always rocked mine and mine were about the same age difference as yours will be. In fact my daughter sat on my lap/knees (what was left of it,lol)rocking and fell asleep resting her head on baby brother almost every night until he got here and there was never any jelousy from her when he arrived because she was expecting him too. :) The more tense you are the more tense he will be so just try to be calm and loving and soothe him. It works faster than getting upset. ;) When the new baby gets here the other child will look about 3 times the size he does now all of a sudden and you will wonder where your baby went. lol....enjoy them...they are not little for long.
He's getting you ready for the baby....I know not funny!!! Actually he might be getting a molar. Those jacked my kids up the worse.
I agree with the other moms. Going in there and rocking him is a BAD idea. ESPECIALLY with another on the way. If you enjoy that go for it, but you are setting a really bad pattern for him. Not the easiest to do....but cry it out! You will be so happy you did it and be glorified to get your sleep back. At least for a while. It's not the healthiest thing either for you to be so sleep deprived and pregnant! You need to rest up, two will be double duty and it would be awful for him to still be doing this when the baby arrives.
He for sure will continue this as long as he knows you will come get him.
Good Luck
My kids have done that too and you just have to try to let them cry it out on their own. I always check on the after a few minutes of it goes by to make sure they are really okay....but if they are ok then I am comforted knowing that. Then it's easier for me to tone them out a little. The more you get up and give the attention, the more of a habit it will become. Be strong!!
good job at standing firm! i hope the rest of your night was as peaceful. i know this is kind of late but i agree 100% with all the other mommies...10 month olds are very smart and he would have picked up REAL quick that all he had to do was fuss and you'd come running. there's no reason a 10 month old can't soothe themselves back to sleep. hope it keeps getting better!
I'd rule some things out first. Ear infection, teething or he might be going thru a painful growth spurt which at that point all I think you could do is give him some Ibprofin. If nothing medical is wrong, I would NOT rock him. He will cry, that's all but guaranteed. But if he's just wanting you to hold him, somehow you have to teach him to go to sleep on his own. It's a hard lesson, but one that every child must learn eventually.
Best of luck to you!
~K.
