Sleep Changes....

I think if you and her are enjoying it, go for it. I wish my 10 mo old son would do that but he prefers his crib. Don't listen to others. If it works for you and her that's all that matters.

Hi, there. I'm not quite sure why our culture is so against co-sleeping with our children, so that we feel guilty about doing it. If you're fine with it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with co-sleeping with your children. Don't feel guilty about it and enjoy the moments with your girl. Good luck with your decision.

Don't listen to others who tell you that you are committing some terrible mistake by letting your daughter sleep with you. There are numerous cultures who cosleep and you don't see 20 year olds in bed with their parents. I think everyone who is against cosleeping "knows" someone whose kid was 10 or 15 before they moved out of mom and dad's bed.
When you decide that it's time to move her out just brace yourself for a little bit of a battle and move her out. We coslept with our son for over a year and he now sleeps in his own bed in his own room just fine. Don't let others scare you or look down on you for your decision!

C.,

I say enjoy this time while you only have one child.
She will not suffer later...she will only cry a little and relize it's not worth it. I say if is not hurting any other areas of your life, you feel it's safe, and you both enjoy it then let go of all the guilt our culture puts on us.
Choose your battle though b/c she will put up a fight when she is older and you move her to her bed. She will be fine,but can you handle it?
Do what works for you!!

As long as you're all sleeping well, I wouldn't say you've done anything "wrong" but if you want to make the transition to her own bed, it will be less of a battle now than it will be later. Your window of "easy transitions" will close about the day after her first birthday. :-)
I think the problem with co-sleeping comes when you have another child come along. Of course, with a baby in bed with you, I'm not sure how there's a chance for a sibling to happen.... ;-)

Hi C.

You are awesome! They are only little once and soon they will not want to spend all that time with you or let you rock them to sleep. I think if it is making the two of you happy you are not in the wrong at all. There will be a time when her sleeping in your room is not the greatest, so enjoy those moments now. I know I did the same rocking and putting to bed. In fact, we transitioned to her room the same after bouts of the cold. She would get sick, with the nasaly stuff and end up throwing up. So I, like you, put her with me so I would know if she got sick. Now we transfer for the first few nights so she falls asleep with or near me and then I put her in her bed. There is always her night light so it's never completely dark when she gets up. I also try to wash everything we sleep on exactly the same so that smells and textures are similar. This seems to really help because when she wakes up just a little she still thinks she's where she was and is comfortable.
Just enjoy all your moments and cherish this time. Do what makes you happy and don't worry what other people think. Motherhood is your time - enjoy it! All our children are different so how react and respond will be different for all of us.

Have a great one!
A.
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Hey, we all have to do what is right for us. My son and I started our journey out cosleeping and then he was in his crib at 3 months old then he got sick and kept getting sick for about 3 weeks something new each time, we were both sick together the first time so we slept in the spare bed in his room with the humidifier. He really needed his mommy and I dont blame him, now it's on the same road to getting him back into his own bed as it was 3 months ago but you have to create your own rules and boundaries. For me, I put him in his crib to sleep alone 3 times and after 3 wakes then I crawl into bed with him but not until then. Once he has had a few nights of that then its 4 times if he has not already given in to sleeping in his crib alone. You might want to try bringing the crib into your room while you transition back to crib sleep. There is nothing wrong with cosleeping, we would probably have the family bed still too if it werent for the dogs and the fact that it kills my back. Good Luck and make your own choices for whats best for your family.

Girl...get that little one back in her bed!!! You think it is nice right now but it is a terrible habit and one of the hardest to break. My goddaughter wouldn't sleep in her own bed until she was in her early teens.

Do it now while you can. Just tough out the first few nights and she will get back on track.

I know exactly what your going through, but it took me alot longer to realize what i did, like when my son was three and we were stil battling the bedtime routine. Don't feel guilty, parenting is a learning experience, you did not cause and physical or emotional damage to your little girl, iff anything you just made it a little harder on yourself for a while. Start back to your bedtime routine, allowing her time to soothe herself in her crib, and learning to go to sleep on her own. THAT will pay off in the long run. Like I said I've battled the bedtime routine for a long time, please email mee if you need some support!

My best friend did practically the same thing, and now 9 years later still has trouble getting her daughter to sleep in her own bed. That's just the one instance I am really familiar with.

Ultimately, I believe it is your choice to decide what is best for you and your daughter, and when you make the transition. I would think the longer she sleeps with you, the harder it will be to get her back on her own.

What ever you decide, Good Luck

I would check out Richard Ferber's book: "Solving your childs sleep problems". I went through the exact same thing...and the book helped me out. Got my son sleeping in his own bed all night within 2 nights.

If you are getting the sleep you need, then I don't think there is anything wrong with having your child sleep in your bed. Sleeping in separate beds and in separate rooms is not done in many other countries or in the past (historically). Children often sleep better when allowed to stay with their parents. It can be scarey to sleep alone when you are little. We let our children sleep with us, whenever they wanted to, and they "outgrew" it on their own and chose to sleep in their own beds after a few years (different age for each of our 5 children). They are all grown adults now and all of us are doing fine :) And your daughter falling asleep in your (her mother's) arms is one of the best peaceful, secure-feeling experiences you can be giving your child. What a warm, safe world she is experiencing with you. Don't feel guilty.