Ok I would like to hear some opinions on what everyone thinks about this issue. My 5 & 8 yr share a room. I have always insisted that they have their own bed and that they sleep in them. I put them to bed in their own bed but when I check on them in the middle of the night they are sleeping together. I use to pick one up and move her back to her bed. I don't do that anymore. Our family is moving in a month and the girls will still share a room but I was thinking about just getting a double bed for them. I asked the girls if they would like it and they both agree. I've read some post on this there are more for it than against it.
I had bunkbeds until 2 years ago. My daughter was getting down to go to the potty at 3am. She didn't know her legs were asleep until she was half way down. They went out from under her, she tumbled into the closet and started screaming. She screamed that her legs hurt as I carried her into my room. When her legs finally "woke up" it was her arm that was hurting. I knew it was broken but my dear Hubby was trying to reasure me that it wasn't. I have never heard any of my children whimper like she did all night. She did get some sleep thought I didn't. We woke up the next morning and her eye was swollen shut and it was the worse black eye I have ever seen! We rushed to the hospital and her arm was broken and thank goodness it was just a really bad black eye with no damage. I never wanted the bunkbeds in the first palce because I always knew that this would happen. Needless to say I will never have them again.
I think its wonderful; then again, I'm a huge proponent of co-sleeping. When they are a bit older they may want their own space/privacy. But, for now, the bond and closeness they share seems like something to embrace.
Jen
Viva la difference!!! I am laughing because I wanted my girls to sleep together. They have done both, on and off a bunch of times. Let them decide. Trust them, they know what's right for themselves. What harm can come of it? World wide, it is more common for families to co-sleep than for them to not. As far as the bed, they will almost surely want to sleep apart eventually, and then maybe together again so if the double bed is a financial commitment....
I feel kids should be encouraged to change their minds as they are trying on different selves all the time. This shows they are exploring, changing, growing...
Good luck, All Is Well
You may want to try a bunk bed with a trundle. I think eventually they will want to sleep apart. My girls are 13, 11,6 and sometimes sleep in the same room although they have their own room. They don't mind sleeping on the floor with a bunch of blankets and pillows. I think your girls are so use to sleeping together thats why they continue to do it.
I don't have two little girls, but I have three sisters, one of which is only 21 months younger then me. So, I'll speak from personal experience in this post.
My sister and I slept in the same room for many many years. We had a day bed with a trundle under it. At night our Mom would pop the trundle up and the twin would become the size of a queen (full) bed. This way, we could sleep together and feel safe (feeling this way has a lot to do with it, I think) and during the day the extra bed is stored away and there is more play room on the floor.
Even after the trundle was gone and we had bunk beds, my little sister would crawl in bed with me. I never had a problem with it. Once we had a home with more rooms, I had my own and she shared with our younger sister. At night she would sneak into my room and get in my queen bed with me.
I think it was a wonderful bonding experience for us. No matter how many fights we had that day or how mad we were, we always felt safe with each other. I don't see anything wrong with sharing a bed. To this day if she comes to visit and my husband is out of town, she'll sleep in my bed!
I say let them share a room and a bed as long as they like, there will be a point in their lives when they want their own space, this time will make them close.
I think a queen bed is a great idea if the room they will share will be big enough to allow space to play with it in there. If not, try the day bed and trundle idea!
They are sisters.....They both love keeping each other company... They both feel safe together,heck,I think its a great idea!I'll tell you what....I had 6 other siblings four which were sisters,and mom and dad only had A five room house.. My oldest sister and I were 2 years apart, and we shared a room and a double bed,all the way through high school!! Some of the fondest memories we share,were during those years we shared a room. The only problems that ever exsisted,with those arrangements, was,those nights when my sister and I would get the giggles,and we drove daddy a little nuts!! lol You won't ever regret putting them together, and either will they S..: )Best of luck to you and your girls.
Put twin beds together so when they are ready they can have their own space! This is a great way for your daughters to feel safe and soud all night long and it keeps them out of your bed!!!
maybe get one of those bunk beds with a full on the bottom, but a twin on the top. That way when they get to be older and don't want to share a bed they have the option of one sleeping on the top. This way they both have their own bed, but a big enough space on the bottom that they can choose to sleep together if they want.
That is so sweet! I would totally get them a double bed. What good friends they must be too. I think it's great. My grandmother said she paired up all her kids and it helped great with nightmares or run of the mill night waking. They'd see the other kid still sleeping and okay, and it calmed them down enough to go back to bed. I don't see how it could be harming in any way. If you worry about how they may change their minds later on, just push their beds together.
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's great that your girls have that bond especially since they won't always be that way in their teens. They will decide when they want to be seperated and you will know it! I was very close with my little sister (5 year age difference) but once I hit 12 I wanted my own space. I can only see this as just enforcing healthy female relationships for both of them.
