LM, boy do I hear you! I think I'm going to add to your sentiments.
To those judgemental mothers who think that single mothers and dads are a problem:
*Cue sarcasm*
It must be great to be you. Kudos on having the perfect life and the perfect ability to know right from wrong not just for you but for every other person. I only wish I were so blessed.
I've been both a married mother and a single mother and I can tell you with no uncertainty that married folks do NOT corner the market on morality just because they're married. Some of the most immoral jackasses I know are married.
I'm a single mother of two fantastic boys. If I were still married to the man I left nearly 7 years ago, I can guarantee that they'd NOT be better off. Assuming that JUST having two parents present means a child's life will be better is simply fallacy. Raising children requires love, foresight, and patience. He had none of that and my boys are better off without him. I am a better mother without him sucking the joy and love right out of me. They'd NEVER learn how to treat a woman based on his example, nor would they learn how a man ought to be treated based on my relationship (or lack thereof) with him. Divorce was exactly the right thing to do for EVERYONE involved.
With that said, please know that I am not a man hater, and I am not a tramp. I am a kind and moral person of high personal standards. I am not a threat to anyone's marriage, nor am I a bad example for anyone's children. I deserve respect just as much as you do, if not more (since I'm not the one judging others based on their imagined shortcomings).
If you are the kind of mother who would judge another for doing her very best in a less than desirable situation, consider this: Someday you may very well be one of us. For any number of reasons, you have a very large chance of becoming divorced. The odds are against you, and while I commend those who are in real-deal, loving,long term marriages...those of you who think your relationship is untouchable can kiss my butt. I thought the same thing when I got married and never, ever thought that he'd hurt me or our kids.
We're better off now.
Thank you LM, for letting me rant.