I am ordering an anniversary cake for my parents and I think the woman's name should go first but a family member thought it was proper to put the man's name first. Tried to google it and found postings for either option being correct. This is a big reunion and I do want to get it right...any experts out there? Thanks a bunch!
I would guess the man's name goes first, just because you always say Mr. and Mrs., and not the other way around.
Oh good grief. Somebody is telling you to put a man's name first on a cake?
Seriously. Do they want Mr. and Mrs. John Doe? That's "proper". Why not just leave her name out totally?
Please ignore who is bothering you about this. Put your mom's name first. If it weren't for women putting this whole thing together, the men would end up staying at home.
Dawn
I work in a bakery and for the *most* part people *generally* put the mans name first.
But in my family, we put whatever we are used to saying? Does that make sense? So ask your self what the majority is? When other people talk about your parents what do they say?
For my grandparents it was: 'Helen & Harry'
For my parents most people said : 'Debra & Eddie'
When I think about it, for the most part, in my family we put the woman's name first.
I do not think there is any real answer...and I do not feel like this would be a major faux-pa if you got it wrong...so I would just put it to a vote and go with the majority.
Happy Annie to your parents!
Yes, it's "proper" and patriarchal to put the man's name first.
The proper way is to put the man's name first.
I think the "proper" way is the man's name first. But its your parents. I always say my Mom's name first though.
Man name first would seem normal to me.
I am no Miss Manners but in all things married couple wise the man's name goes first.
Happy Safe & Sane 4th!
It doesn't matter if is your family. It is what you want
