Sick?-heart Broken

He needs to get out of this relationship right now. This girl is TROUBLE. If they have no children, then that is even better. Tell him to say GOODBYE and don't let the door hit her in the butt on the way out! There is definitely something going on with her. You don't just start looking good, taking rides from co-workers, etc. She is cheating whether she wants to take the blame for that or just keep lying to herself. I would advise him to let this one go! He was young and just needs to move on! He is still so young!

I really don't see how seeing someone will literally make someone want to vomit. Seriously...that sounds like a huge excuse. If she doesn't have a car, then she needs transportation home. Is the male coworker the only one available to take her home? I don't think your brother should assume something is going on...afterall, she does need a ride home. Why is your brother always glued to video games. Thank God my husband doesn't play video games...that would really bother me too! Tell him to go out with her more. It doesn't have to be a fancy dinner. Walks in the park, a picnic, all that romantic stuff. He should be paying attention to her, not to a stupid video game. 20 is very young to get married...most people at 20 are not very mature. It's nice that you are so concerned about your brother. They may need a little "adult" advice b/c they are very young...and if your brother plays video games all the time, then he seems a little immature too. He needs to make an effort. She does too.

Please don't assume that she is making herself sick on purpose. Today, I am getting migraine, can't eat and feel like throwing up and that is just because we were supposed to go to dinner with my inlaws. Just the thought of having to be around my inlaws can stress me to the point of vomiting. I had NEVER experienced that before - I hate throwing up and fight it all the way- but the hopelessness of our situation plays a part.
People deal with extreme stress in different ways, and YES, people do get physically sick from stress. Your brother is heartbroken, but your sister in law might be heartbroken too. Both of them have expectations that are not being met and they probably can't communicate that to each other. Don't assume that because your brother is good looking and pays the bills that it's all your SIL's fault.

The best way that you can support them is give them each a hug and tell them that you care and are thinking about them.

Good luck!

Your brother is a grown man and he needs to figure this out for himself. JMO.

Well, I want to see the other answers before I answer the same...but two miscarriages could do a lot to someone and maybe she needs to get some counseling about that. Maybe she is associating your brother with the loss of two babies?? That could make her feel sick?? Just my thoughts...

Why is he being such a door mat?
Really this relationship sounds like it's on the way out.
He might be better off.

I agree that she could be unknowingly making herself sick through stress. I also agree that it is likely best to end the relationship before they do have children. My brother & his ex were in an unhappy marriage (he actually wanted to go out more- amongst other issues) for just too long. Once they were finally able to conceive, they ended up divorcing when their daughter was only 6 months. Hopefully your brother can avoid a similar tragedy.

Sounds like anxieties, fear, worry, and unhappy. My daughter in law had a problem with her husband being glued to his PS3. Men don't get that. J.

I think they might need to go to a councler who could help them good luck A. no hillls

It sounds like they really need to work on their communication and relationship. I would give them the 5 languages of love to start with. She should be telling him what she told you, and he should be telling her what he told you. The stress of all this could be expressing itself physically, she could have an eating disorder that is giving herself a sense of control (not as likely if she said she can't keep anything down), or she could just be sick, or pregnant. There are so many unknowns in this, I don't think that anyone on here can really know.

those don't seem to be connected events to me, but i would say if she is concerned about her weight loss and not being able to keep anything down then she's not making herself sick. but if she is acting like it's no big deal and won't go see a doctor, then i would assume she is doing it to herself.

Just my guess, but I get the feeling she might be a bit annoyed at his predictability. If she likes to go out, party etc and your husband is the faithful, nice guy, she can get bored with his lack of "living on the edge" type personality. It's not that your brother can change who he is, but he might have to compromise and find ways other than his PS3 to entertain himself. Them being young, I think she wants to feel like marriage is fun versus sitting around like old people. She also needs to settle in her mind that life is not always fun and games and she needs the stability in your brother. Opposites attract, but it's usually when we get married, we realize the difference. It can either make some or break some. I would suggest they try to do more fun things together and for her to stop letting this male coworker take her home.