My neighbor/friend has been trying to have a baby for the past 4 years. When she first started trying to get pregnant, I was trying as well and since then I have had two children. I have been devastated for her. I even considered having a baby for her, even though I HATE being pregnant. She found out last year that she has one ovary, one kidney and half a uterus. So her dreams of having a baby have pretty much been crushed after that and her and her husband have been considering adoption.
Today I walked outside and opened my garage door and could hear my neighbor in her driveway talking to her inlaws. I knew who she was talking to because of their voices, but she couldnt see me because my car was in the way and I couldnt see them. I figured she knew I was out there because she lives directly across from me and I know she could hear and see the ruckus of my garage door opening.
Anyways, I wasnt trying to spy, or to listen to their conversation, but she was talking LOUDLY about being pregnant!!! I wanted to get up and walk around my car and look at her with my eyes bugging out of my head, but I was like no no, I will at least wait until her inlaws leave. So, I could hear them leaving and by the time I walked out, she had already gone inside.
I cant hold this in!! I think shes knows I heard her, but I could totally see her wanting to keep this a secret considering this is going to be a hard pregnancy and kind of risky.
Do I wrap my arms around her and congratulate her when I see her or do I pretend like I dont know and wait for her to tell me? I am SOOO excited for her. I dont think there is a day that goes by that I dont think about this!
What would you do?
Dang, Im going to wait, Im was pretty sure that was the right thing to do, but at the time, it just sounded like she wanted people to know because she was being REAL loud. lol Im sure she was just caught up in the moment though.
She IS pregnant herself, she was talking about how she took the test and she was very surprised it was positive!
Eeeee! I cant wait for her to tell me!!
I wouldn't say anything. From what I've learned, if people want you to know about pregnancy, they tell you.
She may not be the one pregnant, she may be waiting to make it public, they may be adopting. She would have told you, if it was a conversation she wanted to have.
You wait for her to come to you to tell you, she may want to wait until she feels she's passed the high miscarriage rate time. It will be a high risk pregnancy, (if she is the one pregnant, they could have a surrogate) so let her deal with that, it could be serious. (Having only one kidney alone is enough to compromise her health, and half a uterus may make it impossible to carry full-term.) She may run to you tomorrow to tell you, but however long she waits you wait for her, and don't tell her you overheard her and knew, it will let the air out of her balloon. Sending my prayers for her.
Wait until she tells you. Is there a possibility that she has a surrogate who
is pregnant for them? Be patient she will spread the news when ready.
She may be waiting to tell people after the first trimester.
Let her tell you, you do not want to steal her thunder.
what i would do is tell her that you over heard her tell her inlaws about the pregnancy! I would excitedly say dont worry I wont tell anyone but I am so very excited for you. I would also say when "I" (putting myself in the situation) heard you telling them I wanted to come over but thought I best let you all have that moment. Allowing her to say if she wants you to tell others or if she appericiates your secret. If she seems upset by it say you wont bring it up again and go from there. Its a egg shell situation, treat it kindly so. Congrats to her.
I would wait for her to tell you....it's possible they found a surrogate mother and she's officially pregnant...
I too would be excited for her!! It would be a VERY happy time for them!! And yes, VERY risky...
Good luck to them!!
Wait for her to tell you.
What I would do and what I should do may be two different things but if she was a good friend I simply would not be able to contain myself. She spilled the beans by being loud:0) This is such a happy time and you are clearly sharing in her joy so I do not think this would be stealing her thunder.
Wait for her to tell you, definitely!
Be patient!
Wait. Let her tell you.
I would wait for her to tell you.
Blessings....
As hard as it is, you need to wait.
With her medical history, it's definitely going to be a long road. She may not want to tell anyone other than family until she's past the first trimester. It sounds like she may be at a high risk for a miscarriage, also.
D.
You have to wait for her to tell you. What if you were wrong?
If she's a friend that you would ordinarily be talking with this week, I'd ask her about the conversation. As you're feeling, it's awkward keeping secrets. Because she was talking loudly outside I would guess that she's not keeping it a secret.
I would consider that she, herself, may not be pregnant. She may be talking about an adoption or even another friend being pregnant.
If you'd ordinarily see her, I'd ask her about the overheard conversation. Start with a general statement such as you couldn't help but over hear her conversation about pregnancy. Then let her go from there. If she shuts down you know she doesn't want to talk about it. But I'm guessing she will want to share the good news.
I just have to respond... I couldn't disagree more!! I would totally run over there immediately and say "Hey, kinda heard you talking to the inlaws..." If she was talking that loudly in the driveway, its not a big secret and with her being high risk its all the more reason to be forward and let her know you heard. If things don't go well and if she doesn't realize you already know she may not bring it up at that point, and what will be when she really needs your support. Go over there. Be a friend.
