M.G.
Your post is a bit confusing to me. You state that your son receives services through school and outside of school and has an IEP. He is obviously receiving services for something that is worthy of those services and having an IEP so technically he's already labeled. Not that that matters or should matter. Why consume yourself with a label placed on your child? I'm an extremely proud parent to an autistic son. Autism is a part of him, it will never go away however he may learn how to disguise or overcome certain behaviors. There is no cure for autism. Having this label as you put will only do great things for him in school. I cannot imagine why you would even think of forcing your child to solely remain in the typical classroom environment where his needs are not being fully met. As to what you do with your insurance that is up to you but I would hope that no matter what you do you do what is best for your child and not your hang-ups on labels.