Should I Let My Cat Live with Other Family?

If the cat was happy there and your sister-in-law is willing to take him....let her have him.
It's not like you'll never see him again.
A friend of mine took in two cats for a friend that was moving away and couldn't take her cats. Those cats are spoiled and in heaven, believe me. Cats can be really fickle. They tend to care about themselves to an extent.
I think if the cat is happy, what would it hurt to let it stay longer?
Cats don't always do well with very energetic children. It can make them nervous.

I think you should consider it. You'll miss him, but it's a win-win for now.

Best wishes.

If you don't have time for him, your sister in law does and would enjoy having him, and your feline friend seems to like that scenario, I'd say it is a win-win-win for EVERYbody!

To me it sounds like you know your decision already even though it will not be easy. If he is happy and they are happy with him, it sounds like a good match to me.
Best Regards,
C.

Very similar to my situation. My daughter had a dog who was wonderful.
Problem was she was gone all day and he was lonely. When she
came home for a few days, Mr. Bubbles fell in love with us and loved that
we were home during the day. That was 8 years ago. We still have him
My daughter is happy that he is happy. Abby did not mind being home all
day, Mr. Bubbles did. So it was a win win situation for us all. Hope this
helps.

If you allow your cat to move to your sister's, don't expect to get it back in a few years... it will become accustomed to no children.

If you want your cat to stay, you need to have a heavier hand on your children. Punish them if they are unable to give the cat quiet time, unable to pet nicely or unable to let the cat eat/drink in peace. Children need to learn empathy, compassion and gentleness for other animals and children EARLY. I've done this with my now 5 year old her whole life - because I too have cats.

It's never too early to learn pet ownership responsibility and having pets around your children is a good thing. Hopefully you can shut your bedroom door, but leave another 'safe haven' available for your cat to go to if your children are pestering it. Be sure to keep a good watch on the children tho, you must be consistent.

I wouldn't, but not because it's wrong. I've never spent less time with our pets though, because of kids, and our son & our pets adapted to each other fantastically. It took some learning on all their parts (and of course, my teaching kiddo how to treat animals), but it wasn't a struggle... and I'm sure with some kids or some pets the opposite is true. So I can only say that I wouldn't, not what you should or shouldn't.

We just went through something similar. We have had our cats for 10 & 9 years, we now have 3 kids and are in a very transitional state (3 moves in the past year with another one this coming summer). Our cats were not doing well with the kids & we weren't able to give them the time they needed so our aunt (who adores cats) has been fostering them for us. No one know how long this fostering will last - the cats are doing so well with them. They have no children, their home is a lot calmer than ours, and the cats are getting as much attention as they can handle. For us, it has been better for the cats, the kids, and our aunt for them to be with her right now. Since your cat did so well with your SIL & she is probably feeling a little lonely after the loss of her pets it may well be something you consider. Hope you find something that works!

I can say that I wouldn't be able to do it, but that's just me. Everyone is different.

Could you get a big cat tree? Your cat might enjoy being up high out of your little one's reach but able to see what's going on.

Otherwise I see you have a prettty good solution! You'd still get to see him so that's great! I know it's hard. Hugs!

I thought this was going to be a pound question. It would be so hard to let go but maybe if your SIL promises that if she wants to get rid of him to give him back to you then I'd consider it if the cat is happy over there. Easier said than done, I know (I have two cats that I love dearly). I love hearing that family will care lovingly for pets because I get so sad when people toss out their pets because of some moving incident or whatever like they are toys or trash. If you do, you'd still be able to see him twice a month. Just be sure she's committed and all that.