Hi DancerMom,
Odd question...... when you watch her write, does she have trouble with her 'hands' or her 'head'? For example is it that she can't physically write the letters or is it that her brain doesn't seem to process what's in her head to get it on the paper in a coherent order that represents what she's thinking?
There are a couple different types of learning disabilities. Some have to do with motor skills and would be good for her to work with an occupational therapist - as a couple mamas suggested. But the other would require her to teach her brain how to process information differently.
You won't know it's a real issue unless you get her tested. But the up-side to getting her tested.... is that then you know where and how to start working with her to make her feel confident and be successful.
My daughter (who was in a gifted program) almost flunked 2nd grade. As it turns out, she was diagnosed with an output processing disorder. The school has done a WONDERFUL job working with her to develop strategies to enable her to process her thoughts in a way that enable her to put them in writing. In fact, at the end of last year (5th grade) they have all but eliminated her IEP because she has figured out strategies to successfully complete her assignments and learn the material.
As far as testing..... there are 3 options:
*If she's in a public school - the school will test her and it will be free, but will be a lengthy process.
*If she's in a private school it's a bit trickier for a couple reasons - most notably the private schools aren't legally required to provide services (and consequently most private school teachers aren't specialized in that area) and they probably won't do any testing. However, I believe that with a referral from the private school's counselor you can have your daughter tested at your local neighborhood school (regardless of the school she attends).
*You can also choose to have her tested privately - you can start with her physician or call a local university that has a special education specialty in their elementary education program and they can provide you with a list of facilities.
It can be kind of overwhelming. Depending on your insurance, they may pay for some of the testing if you do it privately, or if you get a referral from her physician and the school.
The counselor at your school (or within your district) should be able to point you in the right direction!
Good Luck.