Help...how to get my sex drive back! I noticed this happened after the birth of my 1st son (2nd is 8 wks old). I'm wondering how to get it back and what's wrong with me?!
Arbonne's All Natural Balancing Cream called Prolief is great for that. Giving birth plays havoc with the hormones and of course being tired plays a role. I am sending you a private message with my email address and we can discuss what will work for your situation.
Kay
I've also read that the lack of sex drive is related to the hormone changes in your body and that with time they come back to normal and the sex drive returns. I think the article said it's possible to use a hormone cream that helps to increase libido.
Your baby is still so young. It will take a while. If you don't see a significant change by the time he is 6 months old, then have your testosterone levels tested.
I sure hope someone posts about some magic little pill for women. haha I feel the same way. I am a 26 yr old SAHM and my husband just doesn't get why I am not the same little sex kitten that I was when I was a 21 yr old party girl. I may be technically back to my pre baby weight but this weight looks nothing like it did pre baby. So, of course I don't exactly feel uber sexy. Nothing is high or tight anymore. haha One thing I am making a big effort to do daily is just to start wearing my old sexy bras and panties. I always feel pretty knowing I have those one and it has been helping my mood. Best of luck to your and your hubby. :)
I have 2 children now, ages 5 and 3. I have no sex drive whatsoever. I feel for my husband, and he comments about it --- which doesn't help the situation. I feel like I force the sex, and I am sure he can tell the difference. And TMI --- I don't get pleasured. So, no advice from me, just in the same boat.
Absolutley nothing is wrong woth you! I think it is just the experience of having a child and all the hormonal changes our bodies go through. I just had my third child who is 7 weeks old and my sex drive is the pits! I barely like being touched or close to anyone except my newborn. With my other two children I was a single mom and I didn't have anybody (man) around to "bother" me, but now I do and I don't know how to handle it either. My advice is to just try to stick it out and see if the feelings come back after more time (it may take months), excercising has seemed to help me a little bit also...GOOD LUCK!
I think you are pooped out!
You need time... you need space...
Kids are exhausting - they hang on you, they need you, they want to be hugged, they want to be carried. At the end of the day, you really don't want to be touched - at. all.
I think you need to start with date night once a week - get a babysitter or have someone watch the kids. (We were poor so we used to put the kids to bed and get chinese takeout or pizza or whatever and just be. We'd sit on the porch and laugh or sit in front of the fire.) Go to dinner or a movie or for a walk. Whatever -- you just need time to be a couple.
Make the time.
Time together is important - once they go off to college -- the time is short, trust me on this one! -- You are back to being just the 2 of you...
Don't lose yourselves in your kids. Take the time to be together.
We go to the dump. We go out to lunch. We send our kids to summer camp together and we stay home.
LBC
How's your sleep?
The #1 killer of libido is lack of sleep to sleep dep.
Read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
