Several Poop Accidents at School

I have a 4 year old in my daycare that has been doing this also. He's holding his poop, for whatever reason and the accidents happen when he can no longer hold. In the case of my little friend, he doesn't want to stop playing to go. In the case of another little girl I know, she was self conscious about going at school because she didn't want her friend to know she was pooping.

Holding stool can become a big problem if it continues... You can google it for more information, but it can lead to some serious medical issues.

In 2 cases I have known, a stool softener has been prescribed to promote more regular pooping, and that has helped.

Good luck!!

Maybe he is simply not ready for school

He's young and he probably feels self conscious about pooping at school.
ie: it smells, it is not always quick, and probably awkward about wiping etc.

He will get it.
He is young.
My son was like that at first too.

Just try talking with him, in a comforting manner, and the teachers are nurturing is seems, so they will deal with it too.
My son was at a Preschool, in which the Teachers/school had NO problem about helping kids like that. They were very caring and understanding. At no time, did they make the kid feel bad.

my 5 year old will not poop at school.. but almost every day as soon as i pick him up he has to go poop.. so we go back in the classroom to use the bathroom there and he will poop.. something about me standing just outside the bathroom door?? I dont know.. he pooped at daycare last year.. and at our summer childcare place..but school.. no sireee he will not poop... his teacher is aware of this.. I dont have a solution.. but it is a common problem.

My kids avoid pooping at school like the plague! They are old enough now to hold it and come home. Even my husband tries to avoid it at work. When he has a regular work schedule, he waits until he is home too. Your son is normal in wanting to wait for the comfort of home. I think he is too young to wait though. I hope you can help him. Sadly, i am 35 and remember the boy that used to have accidents when we were little. That poor guy would sit there and smell. The fact that you are asking for help is wonderful, maybe the pediatrician can give you some advice.

My boys both hated pooping in school-but they were able to hold it. Doesn't sound like your son can. The only advice I have is to see if there is some way that you can adjust his schedule for this so he can do it at home. Maybe no dairy in the morning?

I would also lie down with him tonight when the lights are out. Start a discussion about anything and then bring it around to this. Be very non-chalant about it but try to get him to talk about it. I got some of my best information this way. Something about talking in the dark is very non-threatening. You may need a couple nights to get him to tell you what is going on so don't give up if nothing comes of one night.

Mine hated pooping at school. He'd come busting through the door and race right to the bathroom!

Try getting his schedule down to when he's at home for pooping.

I think they feel awkward but over time, he'll get it.
But there would be no way I'd let him sit in dirty pants all day! And that's so unsanitary for the other kids too--I'm sure he smells and kids will avoid him and may make fun of him. I would send a change of undies/pa at for sure and changing out of dirty pants would be NON negotiable!

Let it go. He is embarrassed enough but is just at that stage where this is common. He is not alone, maybe even half his class has started to have accidents now. They are so busy with their minds that going to the bathroom is on the back burner of their thought process.

If anything ask the teacher to tell him to go instead of asking him if he needs to go. That way he perceives it as a command instead of a request and might actually go sit down and go.

Does he have his own clothes to change into and not school clothes?

have you walked him in the bathroom before or aftersschool so he could practice?

maybe role play with his toys

if you used an incentive at home to get him potty trained and it worked you could have the teachers give him an mand m or what ever.

Hi,
My daughter did the same thing i preschool. There were a few contributing factors. Both constipation and attention/power struggle played a role. Her younger brother was sick at the time and required alot of attention and as much as I tried as a parent to give her a ton of attention too I believe she thought having "an issue" would enable her to get extra attention. In addition, constipation was part of the problem too. Getting her on a routine and eating healthy has helped. School was always a hard place to have a bowel movement for both of my kids. My 20 year daughter still has occasional constipation and does not always poop daily, but has no medical issues. A gastroenterologist is a great place to start if you want to rule out a medical issue.

I would talk to him and try to find out the reason he is reluctant to go at school. He may tell you, but he may not be able to articulate a logical reason. If not, I would not press for it. I would listen and be supportive. Tell him you and his teachers would like to help him so he doesn't have to spend half his preschool time with soiled pants. Reassure him that no one will be upset with him if he isn't ready or if he has an accident. Don't over-talk it by bringing it up over and over again. That will add to his anxiety. Ask the teachers to call you when he has an accident, but won't accept help. I would then go in and help him yourself. Not in an angry or disappointed way, just matter of fact. It is a stage, he won't want to continue doing this for the long term. Eventually, he will see how much easier things are when you just use the toilet yourself.