ok so my dh has taken his ex back to court for visitation and other issues. it's not quite final, and dh has been trying to get the vistation part finished (fully agreed) before chirstmas. well, we were told last week it's been agreed and recieved the ppr work for him to sign (giving him all christmas with them til new year). so because of this we were not expecting to get them this last weekend. friday was youngest sd's 13th bday so he called to wish her a happy bday and she said you can say that when you come pick us up.......???? um with holiday it over rides regular visitation meaning he wasn't supposed to have them this weekend since he'll have them for Christmas. so he gets ex on the phone she claims to know nothing about it we offer to go back to the house and get her a copy of what lawyer gave, she declines and claims that she'll have to talk to her's first and can expect to excercise the new visitation after it's ordered (not scheduled or an order until jan) of course she's going to do this, that will give her TWO holiday's in a row with out interuption.
so JUST to make it work for everyone, we have to get the lawyer involved who offered to get it in for an order this week with or without signature since previous e-mails from her attorney stated it's agreed.
does it really have to be so hard?
yes this is another venting post-sorry if i'm offending ne 1
teresa=the kids stated back in june that they WANT standard/more visitation to both his and her attorney...but mom obviously has put them on a guilt trip so everytime we ask, they avoid, so we/he quit asking THEM. and got the lawyers involved
It's very sad that the mother cannot put the needs of her own child(ren) first concerning visitation.
Sigh, bleck, yes, everything really DOES revolve around the lawyers.
But just a thought, where do the KIDS in question want to be for Christmas?
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From what i understand from my own bout with the court...Booo :( only the weekend that the holiday falls on overrides the regualr schedule. So technically, if im understanding you correctly, you would have picked her up last weekend and then had her this coming weekend too because it is Christmas....
***BIG SIGH*** ***BIG HUG***...in my case it has gotten worse and then better as i have resolved a no contact and stick to the court order. He is constantly trying to change it. It only creates havick and gives a reason to argue. Also my hubbys ex and him had an order that wasnt signed (she refused to sign it after SHE took us to court) although they still follow it.
They just like being difficult for no other reason other than to be difficult. They like to wreck our lives. I am on this website called Helpneighbors.com and she contacted the owner telling her we were liars and those werent my kids and not only once but 3 times... I have the emails to them. They have done so many more things and really dont get that it doesnt hurt me but the kids feel the aftermath.... sad but true
hmm. yes technically the holiday schedule overrides the regular schedule only on the holiday days (confusing?) but me and my ex... if the holidays work out to where one of us will have our daughter say for 3 weekends in a row we ALWAYS split some weekends up so neither of us has to go more than 1 weekend w/out seeing her. so sorry your husband and his ex can't work together more. oh and ps - my daughter feels guilty all on her own for leaving either of us ... no one has to put a guilt trip on her :-(
Yes holiday visitation does override the normal schedule but it doesn't interupt it. I would have expected to still have them for the scheduled weekend and then pick them up as sheduled for Christmas. From there, you would then start the schedule up again.
Some people make it that hard and all it does is hurt the kids and cause unneded stress for EVERYONE.
