Selfish Mom?

Yes.....I'm a life long dog lover, but when my son was this young, guess who got cleaned, fed, and loved before the dogs and the coffee.

At his age he is plenty old enough to communicate if he needs something from you. If he is happily playing in his crib, great!

My 23 month old will say, "Mama, I POOOOPED" or "I'm wet" if he needs a morning diaper change. Or, if he's bored he'll yell, "Ma-ma! I want to come out!" If I don't hear either of those things, I let him play til he wants out.

I just get frustrated when people post political questions on Mamapedia. Liberal, Conservative, Libertarian, whatever, I don't want to hear about it on this site. There are so many appropriate places to voice those opinions, so why do it here? Really what is the reason? I can understand if it was a political topic that was directly related to children, but that's not the case. I wouldn't go on ESPN, Fox News, or CNN's sites and ask how to ease my child's teething problem. I watch the news and read about current events elsewhere.To me, this site should be a safe place to come and get advice about children and family life. Sometimes you need a break from politics. Maybe I'm being oversensitive. Do you moms agree or do you find it interesting to comment on politics with other parents?

SO WHAT HAPPENED?™

Ugh, nevermind. I see this is going to be a magnet for negativity. I already stated I have no issue with political topics that are directly related to children and families. Yes, I know that politics affects our lives daily. Yes, I'm interested in topics other than children. Yes, I posted a question about housecleaning services. I think that's related to family life . Yes, I posted a question about my MIL. I think that's related to family life. Yes I posted about hair removal devices. This is a women's site, so I thought it was relevant. Yes, I know I can skip over questions. Thank you for your sarcasm. I thought I asked my question in a polite manner, so as to elicit polite responses. Maybe I didn't phrase my question perfectly. There are legitimate questions of a political nature and then there are those that are a partisan political rant disguised as a question. That is what I object to. Again, I understand I am free to skip those questions. I politely (I thought) asked if you enjoy those type of questions or if you prefer not to have them on this type of site. As with any question, there's no need to be rude or sarcastic. I stated my opinion and asked for yours. I didn't insult anyone. People get frustrated with the negativity on this site often and I agree. You can disagree with someone without being rude, sarcastic, or condescending. I guess that my ideal is to have a site where parents come for help and get it in a warm, supportive environment. That's it. Simple. Maybe simple is too hard.
ETA: Yes KBell I vote. Why would you just completely make up a lie about someone you don't know?
JustM: I asked a question that you don't like, so you make fun of my pubic hair? How old are you 12?

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I'm sure I'm not the first person to complain and won't be the last, but when you try to ask a question in a polite way, whether you disagree or find the question "inflammatory" there is no need to insult people or mock them. For someone to actually make fun of my pubic hair on a site for grown ups is ridiculous. Very junior high. And another person making up lies about me. Yes, I'm going to be a baby and delete my account. Everyone can make fun of me after I leave. I always tried to defend people when I saw people being rude in their responses and I thank the few people who kept it civil. It just reinforces my opinion about political posts. I didn't even say anything political and people felt the need to attack my character and physical appearance. It's depressing. I want a site that is uplifting. Thanks for all the moms who have helped over the years. I'm not trying to be dramatic. I just feel there might be at least one other person that feels the same as me.

And your wonderful what happened,

I find this an unnecessary, immature remark:

"Just M. answers from Doylestown on May 21, 2013
Jim I disagree her laser hair removal question is very pertinent to being a mom...i mean if her husband wont give her some because she is hairy beast then how can she procreate??? duhhh!!!
its a very serious issue

i mean if i went all 80's bush on my fiancee i'd have no cahnce of future offspring...very relevant
but politics i mean gosh the world where we raise our kids...nope, not relevant=)

I actually dont like politics, but i choose not to click, just like i can for other questions...just like someone can for this if they dont like this question"

Not being selfish! It's great that he can entertain himself!

Is he still in diapers? I'd just be worried about a mess to clean up and I would have checked on him. I hated having to make up the crib with clean bedding.

If it ain't broke...

No, Mom needs her time too. Relax and enjoy.

I'm glad he gets the whole "Sunday thing". I'm surprised he didn't get hungry! What a cutie pie!

Not selfish at all! I would take a day like this and run with it!!!!

Seems like the little guy would either get hungry or need a diaper change by now...

Sounds like hubby slept well while HE kept you up...maybe HE should take care of Junior while YOU rest!

Not selfish, per se, but I'd have sent up the husband to check the diaper and to offer breakfast and lunch. If he were just sleeping, I'd say let it go.

And obviously he's content and happy but it's not cool to sit in pee all morning.

Glad you enjoyed your morning :)

Yes you were. You were tired and he would be "work", so you opted to get up, put the dogs out instead, feed them and make yourself coffee...while your son waited for 4 hours (8:30-12:30) before you checked to make sure he was at the very least not hungry too.

When my hubby's snoring keeps me up I sleep on the couch.

As long as he's not still in diapers I see no problem (though I'm surprised he's not hungry or thirsty, do you think he's coming down with something?)

Girl, you deserved the break. Don't allow these Stepford Moms to make you feel badly.

By 1:30pm, I would think that he would need at least one diaper and two meals, and maybe a drink. I don't know if I would use the word "selfish", but I wouldn't want to learn just how long my toddler can go with no attention from anybody else in the house. I get that you were checking on him to make sure that he wasn't in distress, and I so get needing a moment. I just wouldn't have dragged it out that long. Maybe you needed the time, though. I'd rather you do that than to have him with you and be frazzled.

silly mama.
i hope you thoroughly enjoyed your gift morning!
:) khairete
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I actually feel a little sad for your son. Some kids are just not that demanding but they probably actually do want attention. My friend just adopted a little boy from an orphanage in China and he probably spent a lot of time in his crib not asking for much attention because he wasn't really getting any. Now that example is a little dramatic, I admit. I think it you don't do this all the time it's okay. One time because you were tired. No problem.

You were tired. It's only human to feel that way after barely getting any sleep and anyone else in your situation would have done the same. You can have a shorter fuse if you're sleep deprived, or you can fall asleep while he's in your arms and drop him...so many things can go wrong if you're severely sleep deprived and no one's around to cover for you.

I'd change his diaper and bring him a drink and some snacks, just so he is clean and can eat whenever he starts feeling hungry but other than that, if he is happy playing by himself, why not? Let him! It shows he's independent and creative, if he's making up games and singing songs. If he were ill or miserable, he'd be screaming his head off, trust me.