Our son has epilepsy too--we are lucky that one medication has controlled his for several years now. But here are some of the things we do that might help you too: keep a journal of when she has them, what she is doing and how long they happen for, ask lots of questions and educate yourself too.
Don't let your neurologist speak "medical" terms to you that you don't understand. It is important that you are involved with a pediatric neurologist and not just a "regular" neurologist. Communicate a lot with your neurologist--exactly what the medication is doing--what changes you see since your baby can't tell you.
Also what was helpful to us was understanding what the EEG told--it tells what kind of seizures are happening in the brain and then you can read more in depth on those kinds of seizures...she is also young and her brain is changing a lot every day. I will pray you find the right combo of meds and she will get her seizures under control. It is SO hard to endure--our son's last seizure almost 2 years ago was 12 minutes long and it was the worst 12 minutes of my life. <<HUGS>>