Looking for ideas on how you have stayed motivated. I feel I am in a rut and am debating going to work part time. Since I had my last child life has pretty much come to a halt.
S.,
There are many avenues you could look at...I am a Flagler County mom and grandma...welcome your email and what directions you want to take are fine.
B.
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I hope you don't mind my response (because I only have 5+ years experience), but I found that doing something at home that I could take pride in was the key for me. I got involved with a business opportunity that I did from home. It gave me a sense of self again. It gave me my self-confidence back. It kept me intellectually stimulated (because let's face it - going through routines of cooking, cleaning, child care, etc., did not). So, thus was born an entrepreneur that I didn't know I had in me. To this day, I'm still involved and loving it!
And as an end note, it never took away from my being able to be there for my kids when they need me. I was raised by a stay-at-home mom and appreciated the fact she was always there for us. So, I never wanted to sacrifice that.
Hello S.,
I'm not a SAHM but work part time. I normally two 12 hour shifts back to back and off for 5 days. I love this schedule. But, when I'm working DH is home with the kids and he is great with them. Sure, I would love to be home at all times but the two days that I go to work, it gives me the opportunity to socialize with my coworkers and I don't have to worry about cleaning, cooking, giving bathes. In all, you have to think about what's best for you. If you feel that you need to get away for just a few days/week and do something else than taking care of your kids and the house 24/7, it should be fine and it won't make you less of a good mom. Or, if you don't want to go back to work maybe you need to do some kind of activities that make you feel good.
Good luck!
I've been SAHM for 20 years now. My oldest is 20 and my youngest is 8. I wanted to go and get a job, but DH doesn't want me to, he wants me to be available for the kids 24/7. I got into a rut. To the point where I didn't even want to get out of bed in the morning. I would put my little one on the bus come home and get back into bed or on the computer. Going to football, baseball, softball games became a chore it was so bad. While on the puter one day I got an e-mail about a home business. I NEVER open them...to me they were all SPAM, but this one caught my eye. I looked into it. Got involved and now....wow I'm so busy with the business. I love getting up and starting my day. It's really something to be able to work at home, be there for your kids at any given moment and get things done around the house. If you have something to look forward to each day, something that feels good when you accomplish it, a home based business will work. Just be careful if you do chose one. I really looked into a few of them before I started the one I'm with now. Some of them promise the moon & stars and all you get is dust!
Dear S.,
I think going to work part-time is a great idea. I stayed home with my kids while they were little, but went back to work part-time when they were toddlers. We needed the money, but the unexpected benefit was my improved mood and sense of accomplishment. I felt productive, got to be among my colleagues, and as a result, was a better Mom to my kids. We were also able to afford to eat out more, which is far more fun than slaving in front of the stove!
SAHMotherhood is not for everyone; it can become very mundane. That is why I think a P/T job allows a Mom to keep up her work skills, while still having enough hours left in the day to devote to the family and get enough sleep!
Best of luck to you!
