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you know what? I know so many moms who hate the whole "cry it out" method.. but it really doesn't last very long.. My son is only barely four months old, and I find that sometimes it's okay for me to just let him cry it out, and he has a HEFTY cry too. (I'm deaf, and I can STILL hear him)... It lasted 6 minutes and he'd put himself down, I also recommend that you get one of those crib musical things that light up and softly play melodies.. not like a mobile, but rather one that you attach to the side so that the baby can look at it while laying down. My baby LOVES that thing, and once I hit it, he's out... it does take some time, but believe me, it's WORTH getting some sleep.. Also, have you tried putting her down, and while she's crying, act like you're asleep? I used to do that with my first one, and when she'd look at me asleep, she'd automatically fall asleep.. it works like a charm with some kids, and some it doesnt... Try it out and let me know how it works for you, Remember, don't feel guilty about letting her cry it out, it's not being a bad parent, it's teaching your child skills to comfort herself, and in the long run, she will be happier and more secure in her abilities to soothe herself and you will definitely be happier too. She might sense that you are afraid to let her cry it out, and she does it simply because she knows she can. Babies are very smart at that age.. and just tough it out... unless she's like teething, I find that it's still okay to sleep with her.. you can't spoil a baby under one years old, no matter what they say.. but you CAN get them used to the habit, and you want to really try to break them of it without making her feel insecure or anything.. just simply let her know you're there, and you will come back.. First time she cries come back, pat her a few mintues.. even if she's crying, and tell her night night.. and leave the room... then wait about 6 minutes.. try it again, but DONT pick her up.. she'll learn.. Keep us updated okay??
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