Hi E.,
I understand your frustration. I also used an alternative vaccine schedule, actually still am, and just want to warn you not to worry yourself too crazy. I was a basket case for most of my first daughters birth to 18 months....I have relaxed with my second probably due to being more comfortable with my decisions and confident we are doing what we think is best. First I would like to recommend you check out the book "What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Children's Vaccinations" by Stephanie Cave and Deborah Mitchell; written by a pediatrician...it gives suggestions to reduce reactions...how to get them, what to take before and after, etc.
We currently see the doctors at All About Children Pediatrics in McKinney. Both are supportive and even stated at Meet the Doctor Night that they would rather you have a doctor than to turn you away and not have one. My first child---just turned 2--is behind only three now, and my youngest is behind by six or so...she gets viruses quite frequently so we have delayed her more than our first. One thing about this office is they do not even suggest vaccinations until after 2 months of age which was something I had not found anywhere else.
As for our own schedule....we just have a rule that our children do not get more than two at a time...I do not do the combo shots except for DTaP, MMR (couldn't find it separated, but waited until my daughter was 18 months and only gave that one to her and she hasn't had any since and she just turned 2). I don't do the PediaRx, or whatever other ones they are pushing now. In the book I suggested, she will even tell you which to get together if you chose that route, although her suggestion is to do one at a time. I actually have typed out her recommendations to keep for quick reference...if you want it just tell me where to email it.
Good luck and remember your lil' one is not only yours. God has his best interest at heart...if you don't cling to this, you may drive yourself crazy...I almost did.
Feel free to keep in contact...I will share whatever may help you.
K.
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