There is apparently a way they can fill them with lasers now instead of having to drill and sedate and all that. We have not yet checked into that but probably will soon.
My daughter will be 2 soon and she has a large chip in her front top tooth due to caries and lack of enamel on her teeth (nursing itself does not cause caries- other sugar left on the teeth while nursing can, OR having a lack of enamel can contribute.) Also, too much fluoride in your water can WEAKEN teeth because it is toxic. (Google this- it's crazy why they fluoridate water- ugh.)
Our dentist is Steven Gordon. He is downtown on Michigan Ave. ###-###-#### He did 2 rounds of Ozone therapy on my daughter's teeth to stop the caries from growing and getting worse. She has VERY ugly teeth from the caries, but she does not seem to be in any pain.
We went to 4 dentists who wanted to restrain her or sedate her before we found him!!
Also, we use homeopathic remedies to keep her teeth as healthy as possible. Here is what all we do:
We got a Big Berkey water filter w/extra fluoride filters to use for all of our water (drinking and cooking.)
We use Hyland's Bioplasma tabs to provide her with mineral salts necessary to build good bones and teeth. At least 3x/day but you can do every 15 minutes. These are little dissolving tabs- you could even add them to water.
We eat from Nourishing Traditions cookbook as much as possible (very high fat dairy, whole foods, soaked grains... these things are found to be what indigenous societies consume who have very strong teeth)
She gets flax seed oil or cod liver oil once a day for the fat and omega 3s.
We brush 3 times a day (or more!) with a homeopathic fluoride-FREE toothpaste (try Weleda or Toms of Maine or Jason- from drugstore.com) and then follow up with MI Paste (don't get the 'plus' it has Fluoride in it!) The vanilla is the strongest.
We put Xylitol crystals in her water. I am still nursing (and yes, night nursing!) so I try to chew the gum at least once a day so I am passing some to her through my milk too. We order ours from www.Zellies.com
For when we are out and can't brush, I keep Spiffies tooth-wipes in my purse (they have Xylitol in them) to help.
We try to avoid sticky sweets like raisins, but usually I just make sure to brush afterward.
Also, if you go to www.mothering.com and go into their forum or the "finding your tribe" section, they may be able to offer more advice or help with finding a dentist. It is an attachment parenting board and very pro-breastfeeding, so I know they would be supportive for you.
If you have any questions about our routine or supplements, let me know. They also make ozonated water and olive oil that you can drink/use on teeth that is supposed to help.
For encouraging her to brush (toddlers!!) we play youtube.com with a "brush your teeth" song.
M.