Seeking Older Moms- 40 and Older

Iwanted children from the time I was 18. I got married at 38, had a miscarrige at 39 .I had my first child 3 weeks before my 40th birthday the day before Mother's day. What a great mother's day gift! I had my second child at 42 1/2, 13 days before Christmas, What a great Christmas gift!!! Both boys,who are now 15 and 12! Don't give up hope!!!!

Hi V.,

I miscarried twins at 42 because I was not in good health. I thought I was, mind you, but just because you aren't sick often doesn't mean you are healthy. Obviously from your other posts and from just asking the question, you're being proactive. That's great!

My suggestion is to make sure you are on a good, absorbable multi-vitamin and mineral complex. Also, make sure you house is free from synthetic chemicals. These have an adverse affect on pregnancy and even conception. They can also cause birth defects. (and when you do have a child, chemicals are much more dangerous for their little lungs and neurological systems.) You can't control your workplace or the mall, but you can control your home.

I had my first child at 34 and my second at 38 and wish I had known then what I know now. God bless you!

M.

Well, I think I'm the youngest so far to reply, but I am currently pregnant with my 5th child and I'll turn 40 this year. (I had my first at 29.) There is still hope. I would definitely be taking a very good multi-vitamin. Go to a health food store, don't get the synthetic ones like you find at Wal Mart, etc., if you can help it (But then, any is better than none.)

Another thing that I would do is, if you are having problems, to get an herbal formula that helps aid in this area, hormones, etc. Again, you can go to a local health food store (my favorite heath store is Good Nutrition off of Beaver Ruin and off of McGinnis Ferry Rd in Duluth) and get what you need or order from www.herbsfirst.com. The formulas follow:

Female Reproductive Formula: Many natural healers know this formula as the female corrective formula. This is an amazing combination of herbs to aid in rebuilding a malfunctioning reproductive system, uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, etc. Over the years herbalists and patients have seen painful menstruations, heavy flowing, cramps, irregularity, etc., change to a painless menstrual period, good menstrual timing, and a new outlook on life by using these aids to readjust the malfunctioning areas.

Dr. Christopher also has a Women's Newsletter that you can read.

There is also another formula, if you need it called Hormonal Changease formula.

I know it's gotten harder for me to get pregnant, but it doesn't have to be that way for everyone! Good luck!

V.....Hi,I had my daughter at 41,she will turn 5YO next month,she was one of the best things that has ever happened to me. She is hard work,very much the diva,but I love every moment of it. My husband and I already had 3 sons,who at that time were 22,17 and 15 so she was'nt our first...but she was the daughter I had longed for my entire life. Even today 5 years later,I am still in awe that God allowed me to have her...I had come to the realization that a daughter was not in the cards for me,then 7 years ago I had gastric bypass,and year and a half later I discovered I was pregnant. Since I had not used birth control for years I had just assumed I could not get pregnant,well to my surprise I did,the first day I cried a bit,but after that my husband and I really loved the pregnancy and the thought of having a baby in the house again.Its been a wonderful ride,and should the Lord see fit to take me today,I can truly say I have been so blessed. Wish you the very best ,and if you are a spiritual person,pray on it...G.

Oh, hello ....

Have I got encouragement for you! If there's anything I feel definitely qualified to offer in the way of support, it would have to do with fertility issues.

I had my first daughter at the ripe old age of 38. No real problems getting pregnant. I nursed her until about 14 months of age, right around the time I turned 40. Yes, things do get a bit more challenging in the fertility arena, do they not, right around that time?! Anyhow, it was definitely challenging for me.

V., do these things I'm gonna tell you to do: (1) go and get your FSH levels checked. If they are raised, this will give you a little insight into your ovarian reserves; and (2) see Dr. Li Hua in Sandy Springs, GA. She is an acupuncturist and deals with infertility regularly. She is a gentle, trustworthy, soft-spoken soul. You will be well cared for by her. And there are also things that she would probably tell you can add to your diet that will directly affect blood flow and circulation in your pelvic area. Very important.

V., you are still not too old to conceive on your own. My neighbor will be 41 soon, and is due to deliver their second son towards the end of June. It is trickier when you get older, no doubt, but it definitely is doable.

I don't know what your beliefs are in regards to pregnancy, and I realize that there are many women that do not believe in going to scientific means to conceive. I did. I conceived our second daughter via IVF (my 3rd cycle, through the wonderful staff at Emory Reproductive Institute. (Dr. Donna Sessons).

There are some wonderful websites for you to get registered with: Resolve.com and Babystepsforum.com. Those will help support you in your efforts to have that baby.

Also, read "Inconceivable" by Julia Indichova. Same story as a lot of women in their late 30's and early 40's. Told she couldn't. Had many fertility specialists tell her she wouldn't conceive. She did. Had a second little girl. Great book and excellent resource for encouragement to you.

All my best to you!

E.

I know there are alot of women that have babies in there 40's, I have not personally, but a friend of mine had twins boys at 44 and her daughter at 46.To prepare I would gets lots of folic acid, like in juices and folic rich foods get lots of exercise and find a doctor that is open to giving you lots of encouragement. Good- luck if God wants it and you believe it will happen

I am 41 and just gave birth to my first child. I will be 42 in less than 2 weeks. AGH!
First and foremost you have to start your folic acid a minimum of 800 mcg a day. I took Rainbow Light Prenatal One Multivitamin from the day I had the chance to conceive. Married at 40 in June.. one miscarriage in the fall (very common, in case it happens to you).. then pregnant again at 41....
It can be very stressful with the statistics of carrying a baby in your 40s... but even though I had almost every pregnancy complication known to man.. I had a healthy baby boy.
Eat right. Not too much vitamin A.. Get fit!
Good luck to you! It can happen!

HI
I was in my mid thirties when I tried to conceive for the first time, after a year of trying, still no baby. I went to the doctor and she prescribed me some prenatal vitamins and told me to take them to give ny body a better chance at conceiving. 2 months later I was pregnant with my son, I never stopped taking them and we got pregnant with our daughter almost right away when our son was 11 months old. Get some good prenatals and relax!!
Stephanie

I was 39 when I gave birth to my first child and 41 for my second. I used a ovulation predictor kit to time when I was most likely to get pregnant and that really helped! Just a word of warning...I'm 52 now with an 11 and 13 year old and I'm absolutely exhausted!!!! I love being a mom, but it sure wears you out!

V.,
I am 47 years old and have a 9 month old daughter. I am also planning another pregnancy for the end of this summer. My partner and I used a fertility clinic and did ivf. It was very expensive but worth every penny. My daughter is a beautiful angel in my life. My advice about getting ready for pregnancy would be to make sure you are not over weight when you begin. I was and I am having a hard time losing the weight now. Because of my weight, my age, and the fact that at first I was carrying twins my blood pressure was a little high. So I am working hard to lose this weight before I get pregnant again.
Good luck
R.

I never thought I wanted kids and as soon as I turned 35 the biological clock suddenly rang! I am now 41 and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. There are so many advantages to be an older mother. My midwife laughed loudly when I asked if I was a high risk patient because I was older. She thinks that is pretty stupid to put everyone 35+ in that cathegory. She has a lot of patients that are 40+ and have their first kid.
To prepare for a healthy pregnacy good diet and exercise helps. There are also a bunch of books out there to boost your fertility. When I made up my mind I did not want to miss any occasions and charted my cycles. Both times I got pregnant at the second attempt. I am so lucky.
You will have something very amazing to look forward to.
I wish you all luck

First go to your doctor Take vitamin every day and follow what ever advise the doctors tell you

Hi V.,

Just because you have not found a prospect to have a baby, please do not be hard on yourself. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a divine reasons, regardless of the situation. Life is a learning process. I would strongly suggest that you donate some time at a children hospital. Share the love you desire to have for a child, with someone else's child whom might be in need of that compassion. Allow nature to take it course. If it is meant for you to have a child, it will happen.

On another note, it is most defintely important to make sure your body is in good shape, regardless of any situation. I would suggest, to exercise, of course, do not eat a lot of red meat (takes to long for the body to digest it) and pork, eat wheat bread, brown sugar among other nutrients items. Make sure you pamper yourself, enjoy spending time with yourself and make your spiritual guide your priority, not man or baby.

I put the above advice into motion, and by fate, I found a great guy. When you process, generate and implement positive energy, it comes back to you. Wishing you the best. LJB

I turned 41 the day before I had my son, who is now 3 1/2. I have a 17 yo stepson who has been mine since he was 6, but when I was approaching 40, suddenly I decided I wanted to have a baby.

I was really lucky. I had one ovary removed several years earlier but was still able to get pregnant very quickly. Unfortunately, I had two miscarriages, but it was because they had chromosomal abnormalities (probably because of my old eggs ;-) ), but then got pregnant and had a perfect little boy. I had a really easy labor and delivery, too.

I will tell you, the reason everything went so well is because I was in extremely good shape. I ran and swam through my pregnancy, and I was very fit before I got pregnant. Since we can't control the age of our eggs, at least we should control the things we can.

Good luck!

Definitely, be a mom! It is the greatest feeling. You will not be sorry. I am 37 years old and had my first child (baby girl) last year and want to have another one.
Start taking a multi-Vit. Folid Acid in it is needed, prevent some birth defects! Go for it you will be even more happy in your life with a child. Age is just a number!!!

V.,

Congratulations for wanting to be a mom! I had my daughter at the age of 37 and I'm trying for a second now (I'll be 40 in October!). I have been using www.yourdays.com to help me find the best days for getting pregnant (with a boy this time). My next bit of advice, get and take prenatal vitamins; they're great for you. Happy baby making! D. H

Hello V.,
First, I had my first child at 42... so there is some time left on your biological clock! I love being an older mother, although I do get asked if this is my granddaughter.... LOL.

Have you read "The Secret" and other books on the Law of Attraction? I have found that changing the things I focus on have helped attract the things I desire. There is abundance and you CAN have everything yoru heart desires.... God is a good and abundant God!

Would love to hear how things turn out! Like if you read this book and how it affects you. If you would like some other recommendations for books, cds and other support networks for the Law of Attraction!

All the best and may your dreams become your reality!
C. Hiebel
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