Hello all,
I have a question for moms with older multiples, or perhaps even moms who are twins themselves. I have twin girls who will be turning 5 in November. In talking about party preparations (our extended family is HUGE so we start early)one asked me a question that caught me off guard. "Mommy, why can't I just have my OWN birthday this year. I did what I thought was best and explained that they're pretty special because they share a birthday, which is something that no one else in the family can claim, even so far as they have each chosen different decorations - one cowgirl and one mare and foal- for their party. Do any of you have any experience with this question, or something to make sure they both feel special on their birthday?
Wow, that's a tough one. Does the other child want her own party too? It's not like you can have one then the other... then it would be who's do you have first and is the other one going to be hurt over it? Wow, good luck!!
I dont know exactly how your girls feel but as a child who was born on 12/27 I understand NEVER having your own party. I got one in 7th grade. I say get seperate decorations and do the livingroom (just a suggestion) in one theme and the diningroom (if you have one I dont) in the other with seperate cakes and all their friends can flow back and forth and they both get their own party but its still all on one day so its not so bad for you.
Hope this helps,
K.
Hi E.,
I have 11 year old twin girls. We always celebrate their birthday together but they each have their own cake, their own friends and their own colors. They love celebrating together because they have more friends over to play with.
Being a Twin is such a rewarding thing to experience! I am not one but I have two sets in my family! Show them how special the are together and then they will be able to feel special apart! There are lots of websites for twins! Twins get lost of special stuff most of all a Best friend that is more like them than anyone else in the world! But make sure to keep their presents on different piles! lol You can also assure them that they are two sepparat little people by playing a game with them! This sounds a little strange but it works! You can for the day or for an hour tie them together at the ankles wast and hand they will think its funny! But they will relize how different they are and then how to work together! Plus you'll get a kick out of watching them! Take lost of pictures! Kids learn best when they are having fun!
Hmmm...sorry no twins here but I grew up with my cousins and sisters who were all girls and lived in the same house and i had a cousin born just one week after me and my little sister and her little sister were born the same month as us. Every October our birthday parties were always together, I dont think we ever had one apart until we were older than sixteen and I dont think I was ever to upset about it because twice as many friends would come over and our moms always did things like make all four of us girl shaped cakes that had our own color hair and eyes and something on that looked like something we wore or had a dog or doll we liked as a side-kick cake. I dont think it has ever been much of an issue and hasn't effected us long term negatively so in my opinion I wouldnt worry about it too much. I think that cowgirls and mares and foals all go together and that if you don't make a big deal out of it they will learn that its really more exciting this way. Just keep repeating to them how special they are for getting to do it together. Little kids really absorb stuff like that and take it to heart. for the rest of their lives they will believe that it makes them special if you just keep repeating it to them. I hope this helped...good luck and God Bless!
I do not have twins, but I really liked your post and wanted to chip in. I think it's great you were blessed with 2 girls! Have you considered making a big deal to each of them separatly about what gift/suprize she is planning for her sister? Maybe you could take each one shopping for a special twin gift for the other.. like matching best friend 2 part necklaces?
http://www.twinstuff.com/twinsto5.htm
Just a thought...but why dont you go for three partys...the main one where the whole family celebrates like you planed and then one for each of your girls where they have a friend or two and you do something just with her..then you do the same for the second one. that way you can celebrate with your big family but still make each girl feel special and like she has her own day...the party for the girls them selfs dont have to be anything major or even need to spend money you could always just take the girls to the park and maybe bake a cake and sing happy birthday...
