W.F.
Vanessia,
I am not sure that I have any words of wisdom, but I thought I would let you know that my 6yr old little princess is doing the same thing. I have also noticed that a lot of the little girl's in her Kindergarten class and in the neighborhood are acting the same way. I think it is just another one of those stages that little girls go through. I think they are striving to find their places in the various social groups that they have been introduced to in the past year, and also struggling with the fact that they are no longer a baby. As a parent we expect more from our 6yr old than our 3 or 4yr old.
I think that spending one on one time is perfect! Of course if she is hitting or kicking or using sassy language twards you I would then take her away from the situation and put her in a thinking chair for 6 minutes. When her time is exhausted approach her and discuss why she is on the thinking chair. Make her apologize to you and don't forget to tell her you forgive her and give her a big hug and kiss.
You are doing a great job. I am amazed that you find the time for one on one time with anyone seeing that your children are so young and there are 4 of them. I also have a large family, and I struggle to find time for even myself.
W.