Seeking Moms Who Can Also Be a Friend

Okay first off I know how you feel. My mother doesn't have any long-term friends and as a result I find it hard keeping friends too. Although I have had a best friend since Middle School but we only talk at special events, church stuff or if someone falls ill/hurt. I too feel like I'm holding my children back from making friends. My son is 8 y/o and he has one best friend but that's all. It could be also that he is speech delayed and speaking with he is often difficult and children his age are into Pokeman or sports which he doesn't care for.
I hear you when you say you want to break the cycle from being our moms. My mother is very anti-social and I do make fun of her because of it instead of trying to help her. That's how I'm like her, I'm always negative!!!
I too care what other poeple think. I'm always worried that people won't like what I'm wear, saying, doing and even the car I drive. As I sit here write I feel critizing me but it's the way I am. I have tried to changed in the fact I have become more involved at my son's school, CCD class and at church. But it's still hard because I'm always thinking I'm not good enough.
Okay enough said.
Ways we change change:
Become involved in other things ie. school, church, school, work or a play group.
Talk to other about how we feel and be honest.
Talk with our mothers to find out why they are like this and maybe try doing things together such as a retreat or just going out to dance.
Take a class that's not "education" not that's we aren't going to learn but a funny class- dancing, karate, kickboxing, or sewing.
Exercise and eat right.
Try not to think how do other see but rather HOW DO I SEE MYSELF!!! Self-confidence
Does this help any???
Hope so but if not at least you know you aren't alone.
Good Luck,
L.

I guess the question is...WHY do you care so much about what others think? I used to be that way and have gotten much better. This is MY life, MY family, MY one chance to live and if I let it be ruled by wondering what every Tom, Dick and Harry thinks about me it's going to be a pretty miserable existence. As long as your a good person, great mom, wonderful wife then who cares what others think!

Hope you have great day!

S.

L.,
I am a stay at home mom of a two year old. I have a hard time making friends and being a military wife whose husbands often leave, the friends I do make leave. I would love to get together and do a play group or something? Let me know. You never know what will happen until you ask.

Just remember it's only important what you and God think. We are all on our own journey in life and some people just don't get that so they are busy dwelling on what other people are doing that they get stuck in their own journey...just going in circles. As you go through your own path in life, remember all those people are distractions trying to get you off track...Stay focused on your goals and remember you have only one judge and they will have to face Him too for their own judgement. Another thing to remember is that He puts people in our lives for reasons and seasons. Some seasons are short, some are long. But the main thing is that there is always a reason. A learning experience(whether good or bad), sometimes He brings people together because 2 people at the same time asked for a friend,or there is something that you can share with this someone. When people come in and out of our lives it's important to remember and cherish the fond memories made while they were in. As we grow older, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin. Distance, doesn't have to inhibit a friendship. Take care hun and God Bless. Remember,Look up not around. A