i have a 13old daughter and she has learning disabbilty sometimes it very fusterating and she is going to be in high school next year what do i do? iam scared for her the fear of someone mistreating her makeing fun of her it drives me nutts the thought
Hello There,
Warmline Family Resource Center in Roseville might be a good place to ask for some advice. They work with children and families with disabilities.
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www.warmlinefrc.org
Hope this helps!
Hi K.,
I couldn't tell whether your daughter's learning disability has just been discovered or whether she has already been in special ed for a while. If it's not new, chances are she has already experienced the misinformed and painful comments that other kids can make about being in "the dumb class," for example.
Whether it is new to her or not, it is important to discuss with your daughter what being in special ed means (i.e. not about being less intelligent, but about learning differently) so that she knows the truth inside herself and will be secure and well-armed with that knowledge if other kids do say negative things. You can't control others, you can just give her the tools to use to take good care of herself.
I worked in a middle school for several years as a counselor, including with a lot of families of kids with learning disabilities. Generally speaking, middle school is the hardest time for such things, with it getting easier in high school as kids mature and become more understanding of other people's differences.
Good luck!
L. K.
Hi K.!
My daughter also has learning disablilities and is now taking classes at Cabrillo Community College. I found the high school years to be easier than the middle school ones because my daughter had more choices and opportunities to meet people who enjoyed some of the same things she does...that being said, I wondered if you had had an opportunity to speak to anyone from the SPIN organization. They have ongoing support groups and workshops and are set up to match parents with current situations with those who may have recently gone through the same things. I'd give them a call. Also, I made a point of figuring out what my daughter was good at (rather than always focusing on the things she couldn't do), this helped to strengthen her self image so that she could better handle what came her way.
Try not to worry, I know that's hard. But worry won't really help her and it will only make you sick! Letting her know that you are her advocate and that she can talk to you will keep you in the loop and hopefully give you both comfort. Hang in there! T.
hi ,
I am a sahm of 7. we have 4 adult children and 3 younger ones 11,9 and 7. We adopted the younger 3 from the fostercare system, we did fostercare for 7 yrs. They all have emotional and behaviorial problems due to what they experienced early in life. My 9 yr old also has learning disabilities. It is hard finding parents who understand or experience the same things I go through with my kids.I would love to talk to you.....T.
