Seeking Mom's Who Have Problems Thier Kid Out of Bed to Get to School on Time

I have an 8 yr old that had that same problem. Out of desperation I took to using a squirt bottle with ice cold water. What I do now is I go in 10 min prior to him having to get up and let him know that its time, after that 10 min go in shaking the bottle and let him know that if he is not up and dressed by the time I get back (allowing another 5 min) that I am coming in to squirt if he is still asleep. It took a week for him to adjust but if he hears that bottle now he will wake up Yelling I'm up, I'm up.

There is no reason to brush your teeth before you eat breakfast, you should do that after you eat. He probably isn't getting enough sleep. I always told my kids if they couldn't get up and ready for school on time then they needed to go to bed earlier. No kid wants an earlier bedtime. You can also try getting him his own alarm clock and letting him be responsible for getting himself up and ready in the morning. This worked great for my kids, it was part of growing up. Also, preparation the night before is a big time saver for the morning rush. You also might talk to him, maybe he is having some kind of trouble at school that makes him feel like not going.

Dear D.,

Something is bothering your child. Of course, he will not tell you right away. You and your husband need to spend some quiet time with him, like walking, fishing, something like that, and in the process talk to him about what he likes to do , what his favorite things are, and if he has someone special that he admires, just try to get to know the real inside child. You will find out why he is hesitating about going to school. Some people handle problems inside themselves, and eventually get depressed and still do not solve the problem. He may be one of those. It is great that your family has been together for so long - you have learned a lot about each other, and now you need to get into your son's mind so that you can help him avoid the stumbling blocks to his being at peace in the world.

Of course all of this will take a long time, and he needs to get up LIKE TOMORROW on time. So try cook something that smells good to him, bacon, french toast, cocoa, or a cinnamon and nutty breakfast cake. Also, wake him at least 45 minutes earlier, and don't tell him that you are doing that. Yelling is not fun for anyone to hear or to do. Make the morning better for yourself in some way. Treat yourself to a happy morning.

Get the car ready to go, so that the few moments that it takes to get it our of the garage and pointed in the right directions are accomplished early. I know, I 'talk' too much. Oh, well.

Sincerely, C. N.

I am going to sound a little rougher then the others, I don't think your child has a depression problem. I think he needs to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier, you need to put your foot down as the parent and tell him step by step what you expect from him. No television in the morning for him to drift off to while he was "putting his shoes on" My oldest did this and he didn't like it when he went to bed for a week right after dinner and his bath and woke up really early. Now he is 12 and his bed time is 9pm, all I have to do is say "hunny get up and get ready" and he's up, if some mornings he doesn't get up the first time, I pass by his room and simply say quietly next time I pass by and your not dressed your going to bed early... no yelling, he just knows I mean it and he gets up. Start now before he gets older. Your the parent/adult there should be No reason he is late to school.

Take advantage of the time he is awake. Have him wash his face and brush his teeth first thing to make it harder to fall back asleep. Make sure his clothes are out and ready the night before to make it easier to dress. And then some breakfast and out the door. If you organize the night before, it might make it easier. Good luck!

Take Care,
F.
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I heard this trick recently - let your son know that if he is not dressed and ready on time, he will be going to school in his pajamas, but under no uncertain terms will you continue to let him be late. You have to be willing to follow through on this, but I know a few moms who've tried this and it seems to work like a charm. Kids don't want to have to go to school in their pj's - too embarrassing.

Hi D.,

I saw that you have posted 2 questions about your younger son. I'm not a psychologist but both of these issues sound related. It seems as if they are related to your son wanted to control his environment. Is this behavior new? Could it be related the school ending and your son leaving his friends? Has there been a change in your lives? Has the change of your husband moving from graveyard to days caused a change - ie. your son gets less of YOUR attention at night because your husband is at home?

It sounds as if your son is trying to get more attentions from you.

Good-luck,

Michele

It definitely sounds like your 2 problems are related. It also sounds like your son doesn't like school very much, this is common. My 10 yr old used to do the same thing as your son. I tried all the advise the other moms gave. Then my husbands hours changed, so he had to leave a little bit later. He would wake everybody up. My son got in the habit and now even wakes up early on weekends. Then I made a rule that if he got up and ready to get out the door fast enough, he could do something that he liked. For example play outside, or watch T.V. Now my 14 yr old won't get up! Maybe someday everyone will be in sync!

Incentives work wonders!

Good Luck!
K.

Goodmorning to you D. I got 3 with the same problem, only different is that my son has to at school by 7:55 his class starts at 7:56, strange time isn't it. Any ways I got a nice surprise when they don't want to get out of that bed, and that is my SQUIRT BOTTLE. I 1st give them their 3or4 warning calls but you know how well they respond to that. And all I do is stand at there doors take aim and SQUIRT, want to see kids jump up and get moving.TRY IT, it WORKS. GOOD LUCK. T. v.