Seeking Mom's of Twins

i have a friend with twins and i used to babysit for 5 sets of twins before
dont worry. they are so cute.
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Congratulations

I am a mom of 15 month old twin girls. They were born Nov 10, 2006. The pregnancy was quite tough, because my husband was deployed overseas and I was very sick with morning sickness (24/7). I had a C Section after 15 hours of labor and 3 hours of pushing. I had wonderful care at my hospital during the delivery and during my 6 week stay in the hospital before the birth. My twins were born at 35 weeks and 3 days. They spent almost 3 weeks in the NICU at the childrens hospital here in Jacksonville. I suffered from very mild post partum depression. But through it all, I had a wonderful network of family to help me while my husband was away. My husband and I are from Wauchula, FL and our families are there, but every week a different one would take time off from work to come and stay with me until i was able to get around on my own. I still deal with a little bit of depression, but it is mostly stress related now from my job. I would not change our situation one bit, except that my husband could be home more. We miss him when he is gone on deployment, but we also have that time to bond as Mommy and girls. We have a sitter who comes to our home to watch the babies while we work. Sometimes she will stay over night, if i have to be at work early. She is a true God Send to us. We love her as if she were one of us and really she is. The best thing that she and I could have done was put the girls on a schedule. They get up when I am getting dressed for work, then have a morning nap, lunch and then an afternoon nap and then it is almost time for me to get home and we start dinner. After dinner, we play for a while and then around 7:30, they get their bath and go to bed by 8. We have had this schedule since they were 3 months old and my only regret is that I didn't start it sooner. Now, they sleep from 8 pm to 7 am. Such a relief... I can get some sleep now too. AND RULE NUMBER 1 IS TO SLEEP WHEN YOUR BABIES SLEEP. I DID NOT DO THAT AND I LOOK BACK AND WISH THAT I HAD OF. YOU DON'T GET MUCH SLEEP AS IT IS WHEN THEY ARE FIRST BORN, SO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEIR NAP TIMES. THE LAUNDRY AND CHORES WILL WAIT. MY HOUSE USED TO BE SOMEWHAT SPOTLESS, BUT NOW, IT LOOKS LIKE A ZOO. BUT I DON'T CARE ANYMORE, we pick up the toys and stuff and keep the dishes and bathrooms clean and keep the laundry done, aside from that, who cares...

I hope this info helps... Please write me back, I would love to get to know you. I used to work at 1st state bank in Arcadia.

K. in Jacksonville

I have 1 yo twins (boy & girl). Each pregnancy is different. You'll hear horror stories and superwoman stories. I had no problems throughout my pregnancy and went full term. Delivered c-section because one was breach (even though the Dr. said I could try a natural delivery - no thanks). It was a piece of cake compared to my 1st delivery, which was natural w/ episiotimy. The only difference was I got a lot more uncomfortable towards the end and I had a ton of Dr. visits the last month or two (including fetal monitoring at the hospital). I did not gain much more weight than I did with my single baby pregnancy and had no problem finding clothes that fit. The real challenge will come once they are born. It was pretty tough the first 3 months, but like anything, you learn how to handle it and get used to doing double duty. The most important things is to try to get them on a schedule ASAP and train them to sleep in their own cribs without rocking at an early age. No offense to those who sleep with their babies or rock them to sleep, but when you have twins, it is less stressful to teach them good sleep habits. Also, if you plan to breastfeed, don't stress out if you have to give one formula and breastfeed another. I was going to try breastfeeding both, but it was just too much! I tried to alternate with the breastfeeding. Anyway, there are plenty of support groups out there. I don't belong because honestly, I don't have time:) Moms of Multiples is one of them and something called TPOTS I think. Any questions, just ask!

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I am a 22 y/o mommy to 3 y/o twin boys. My pregnancy went really well, I had no complications and even delivered them natural, no c-section. I was 19 when I had them and let me tell you for me, when they were little it was so easy. My babies slept most of the night, never cried, and were perfect, however, now they are little heathens who are making up for all of the time that I thought they were little angels. It is a lot of fun, but you have to be very patient and understanding and realize that they are different and each has there own comfort zone. You have to spend time with each of them individually and I hope you husband is patient and understanding as well becuase it definatly is a two man job. If you need any advice or have any questions just let me know.

I'm a single mom of 3 1/2 month old boy/girl twins. Let me start by saying that you shouldn't be nervous. If I can handle my twins by myself, so will you. Although you have another young special needs child to take care of, you have a husband to help, so you will be just fine.

My pregnancy went well. The only complaint I had was that towards the end I had a very hard time getting around. I actually gained almost 100lbs even though I tried to exercise and ate healthy foods. My feet and legs were rediculously swollen all the way up to my thighs, but that went away within 2 weeks of delivery. I carried my twins to 37 weeks at which point I delivered them naturally. Baby B was breach, but the doc had no problems turning her once baby A was born. I had no medical problems at all during my pregnancy. My son weighed 7lbs 13oz and my daughter was 6lbs 7oz. They are now 3 1/2 months old and are exclusively breastfed.

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Good luck!
N.

I havent given birth to my twins yet but it wont be much longer. I am 35 weeks. I have not had any problems with my pregnancy so far. The only complaints I can make are little. The bigger I got the more my back hurt, you grow out of maternity clothes real quick and I have to go to a doctor I dont like because I'm considered high risk. Other than those things this pregnancy has pretty much been just like my other three. I just cant wait for it to be over so I can see my babies. Good luck!

My son was 14.5 months old when my identical twin girls were born. I didn’t find out I was carrying twins until 21 weeks. At 26 or so weeks I found out there were sharing a placenta and that one girl was not getting as much blood as the other. After this I was closely monitored. I went into labor naturally at 32 weeks and had the babies. They were born vaginally with no pain medicine.

Because they were small (4#4 and 3#1) and early, they spent 4 weeks in the NICU. We had a lot of help from friends and family after they came home. All of our family is out of town but each family member took a turn and spent a week or so with us helping out for the first 3 months. After that I was on my own: my husband travels for work and is often out of town one or two nights a week, but I was fine (of course my husband was a huge help when he was here.) You just kind of get used to it. Yes, there are times when it's hard but there are also times when it's wonderful. I also tried to get out as much as I could and take the kids to playgroups, etc. My older son appreciated it and it was good for my own sanity.

I'll talk a bit about breastfeeding because that is something that was important to me. Twins are more likely to spend time in the NICU and this can make your breastfeeding relationship difficult to get started. The most important thing is to be determined to breastfeed and to stick with it. If it's hard it WILL get easier if you keep working with it. MOTHERING MULTIPLES by La Leche League is a good book to read before the twins a born. Also ask for help, find a La Leche League Leader and/or a Lactation councilor who will work with you.

Another great book for Pregnancy is Barbara Luke’s WHEN YOUR EXPECTING TWINS, TRIPLETS, AND QUADS.

The Twins club is a good way to get support to. You can go to www.nomotc.org to find one.

I do not have twins so the only advice I can give you is to look for a group in your area. My sister has a friend with twins and she was in a group of mothers of multiples. They know what you will go through better than anyone else and probably have good advice. These two sites popped up when I looked it up. You could probably also ask your hospital.
https://www.greatbabyproducts.com/Twins_Baby_Clubs_s/133.htm
http://www.twinsmagazine.com/florida.html
T.

Dear M., Congratulations! My twin girls are now 18 and in their last year of HS. Their sister was 16 months old when they were born. I was terrified to have 3 babies. My most comfort came from organizing myself. I turned my master bedroom into a playroom. Everybody could be in the same room at the same time. And the livingroom/familyroom/ diningroom could stay fairly organized. And this area was the place my husband and I could retreat to when the kids were put to bed. I had storage binds for each kid. I kept plenty of plastic bags for dirty diapers and clothes. After the kids were put to bed, I gathered all the dirties and put everything in proper place and replenished the plastic bags. I had a small antique trunk in my family room for easy storage for extra diapers, wipes or clothes up front. An easy reach and out of sight. Just having something to engage your older child when you are busy with the twins makes special time for him. He will not feel left out and will cooperate and help you. You will be surprised that he has a gift for helping with 'twins time'. You will discover that when the twins come home. Just plan to include him and it will work and he will not be jealous or feel neglected.Remember to ask family and friends to include him into the talk and attention when the twins come. He will be sensitive to attention shifting away from him. Because my twins engaged each other, I think you will have a built in management tool that frees you from direct one on one all the time like it is with your older son now.