If you are a birthfather whose child was placed for adoption but did not know, didnt even know you were the father or had a child on the way and would have never gave over rights or agreed to placing the child for adoption how would i go by getting my child home with me?
Would that be in the best interest of the child? How long has the child been in his/her adoptive home? What possible benefit could there be to the child being taken from a loving home into a stranger's house? Just food for thought.
As an adopted child could you possibly think of the child instead of yourself? I didn't have the best parents on earth but I think the only thing that could have made it worse was a bio dad trying to take me away.
This is about the child, not you.
you need a lawyer, as laws will vary from place to place. And also to think about the best interests of the child. How old is it? How long has it been with its adoptive family? Will it be more traumatic to take the child away? I'm not saying you shouldn't pursue it, everyone should have the right to know their child, but you need to talk to a lawyer and do some severe soul searching so that you know for sure what it is that you want the outcome to be.
You need good legal counsel for starters.
Most importantly... You need to be selfless and think about the child and the damage you could do to that child and the family he/she is living in now.
It is not about you............ A child is involved now and the child's best interest is the priority.
How would you feel as a child if someone attempted to come take you away from the people you know as your family?
You answered you own question by stating you need legal advice. Contact a family law attorney in your area. Good luck.
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There are men on this site. However, the majority of us are women. And I don't know if any of us are lawyers. I would say you need a lawyer and fast.
If you were hiding a pregnancy from a man - that is wrong on sooo many levels...that's not trying to be judgmental that is stating my view...
curious as to why if you are the male bio - why are you using a female nickname on here?
The first place to start, is by speaking with an attorney.
It sounds like you are anxious, but remember the adoptive parents did not have anything to do with the fact that you were not notified and you are about to bring their world crashing down around them. PLEASE be considerate; work with them and make it a slow, calculated transition.
All I can think about is how devastated the adoptive parents are going to be!
The baby is only 4 months old. I would get a good attorney and get a paternity test done. If you are granted custody please please please remember you are nothing but a stranger to her. Meet with her and the new family so she can get to know you. I know you will probably be in a hurry to have her as all yours but it would be better, and easier for her, to go a bit slow.
The mother thought someone else she was seeing was the father and did not inform me until recently that i could possibly be the father. I have since seen pictures of a spitting image of me! I truly believe in my heart she is mine, i have no other children I am 28 with a great job and bright future. I would love nothing more than to find out if she is mine and raise her. She is now 4 months old. Also I have a very nice content home with the money to raise the child.
