Seeking Help with Potty Trouble!!

I wish I could help you out with that one my daughter still goes to the bathroom at night but she is just going on 3 I wish you good luck.

Perhaps he is just not ready for night time pottying yet.

A lot of kids aren't ready at 5.

Some tips to help.

Avoid Acidic juices, pops, and sugary drinks (orange juice, kool aid, etc) As these things can irritate the lining of the bladder making it difficult for a small child to hold it in.

Do not limit access to water, it doesn't help at all.

be supportive and caring, do not punish him he CAN'T HELP IT. He had NO CONTROL over what happens when he is asleep.

If he is still wetting the bed every night or nearly every night in 2yrs then that is the sign of a medical problem. That should be looked into by a urologist.

Good luck From a Former Bedwetter who was finally "cured" at the age of 9 (my bladder muscle didn't close completly, so when I fell asleep it just leaked out a little at a time)

My son is 5 and has this problem on and off. The ped's office said don't worry about it just make sure he has no accidents in the day time and this problem will go away on its own. If it happens he helps me clean him up and puts on his new undies. A lot of the time he goes to be in pull ups still though he doesn't want to. If he goes to bed in undies about half the time he wakes up wet. Sometimes he is soaked. Be patient really this should not be a big deal though I know it gets tiring to do the extra wash.

My 6 year old daughter still is a bedwetter dispite many efforts to counter it. Discipline is never the answer because unless there are extreme behavioral issuses which would make the child purposly wet or soil the bed.

After several pediatritian visits we had her kidney's and bladder ultrasounded and found that she had irregular shaped bladder. She was then put on a medication that is to help bed wetters, but it didnt help.

Ultimately we are waiting for her to grow out of it. She wears pull ups and is slowly decreasing. I am always careful to be positive and use reinforcement when she wakes up dry.

I hope this helps.

Punishing will not work it only scares him more, Stop liquids a few hours before they have to feel secure and know they can control it. Be patient and calm. My 3&4yr old girls are potty trainedand have not peeded the bed in months. Good luck

I had the same problem with my (now 11 yrs old) son. He would do fine during the day but at night he would have accidents. My opinion is you should not discipline for this. What he does when he's sleeping he can't control. What I found worked is that I limited his fluids at night. I wouldn't let him have much to drink after 7pm and have him go to the bathroom before he went to bed. This worked really well.

Your not alone in this! It is VERY common!

Everyone has wonderful advice and it is everything that a urologist told me.

My 14 year old still periodicaly wets the bed and the medical term in Enurisis (spelling?) and it can go as long as 16 years old in boys because boys bladders tend to mature more slowly than girls. This was all told to me by a Pediatric Urologist.

That doesn't mean that your son will go on this long too, but definantely limiting/stopping fluids before bedtime, making sure he goes to the bathroom before bed and wake him up in the middle of the night until he can get up on his own and there are pullups for older kids too that are helpful. My son still wears pullups (adult-size though) even now.

A.,

First I must say I was surprised at how you worded your sentence. He can not stop peeing on himself. This makes me think that maybe this is an issue you have never been exposed to before. Your son is not intentionally peeing on himself. Alot of children have this problem. Please speak to your doctor again and ask for more information to help you as a parent to become more familiar with this issue. It really is not his fault and he most likely is very embarrassed. At the same time it can be fustrating for a parent. Good luck

This is very common I have an 8 year old still peeing to bed cant get him to stop I think its an insecurity. I take toys away or game boy It helps some

Your son is not doing this on purpose ~ He's seems to be sleeping too heavily to wake up to go to the bathroom. You might want to try taking him to a urologist or maybe even a psychologist if the bedwetting continues and there's nothing physically wrong with him. Even though it's annoying, it's not his fault and discipline isn't really going to do anything but aggravate you both because you're wondering why it's not working and he's wondering what's wrong with him that he can't control this. I don't know, I'm being presumptious, but that's my take on the situation. I hope it works out for you and your boys! Take care and God Bless.

I wouldn't worry about it too much and PLEASE do not disapline him.....Some children's bladders don't fully develop until later. I promise you that in time he will stop. He is already feeling bad for peeing the bed and for you to punish him will only make his self esteem worse. Just go out and by night time underwear (please when he is not with you) and let him wear those. Give him a hug every morning and tell him it is ok and that you love him. If he had a dry night, do something specail with him. Something may have upset him or if he has been doing this for awhile, it may mean his bladder has not matured yet. Be patient with him.

A., this actually is more common then you think. In fact I'm somewhat suprised that your doctors didn't tell you that. I would like to first start out by saying that there is no reason to discipline him over this since he is sleeping when it happens. If he was doing it during the day because he was too busy playing then I would say work with him ...but this seems to be a physical issue, not a behavioral issue. Some kids go through a time when their body is growing and their blatter may grow at a different pace, causing it to fill easily and be overactive. There is a couple things you can do to help.....
1 - Cut all fluids 2-3 hours before bed and when he brushes his teeth only let him swallow a tiny sip.
2 - Make sure he goes potty literally right before going to bed. If you read him stories, for instance, then I would recommend reading, going potty, and then saying goodnight.
3 - Make sure he goes potty when he first wakes up. This combined with the one above will somewhat "train his blatter" (sort-a-speak)
4 - You could always have him wear pullups, just to sleep in... although some kids really don't like this because it makes them feel like a baby.
which brings me to 5 - I would make sure to tell your son that it's not his fault and that you are going to try to help him. He may be feeling a little sad since he knows not to do this, but he can't help it. This in turn could be effecting his self-esteem.

All of these are just tips to help ease this difficult time. I am not a doctor by any means so I could be wrong but I have seen simular situations with other kids. I would recommend talking with your doctor again, but hopefully your son will out of grow this soon!
Hope that helps!

dont let him drink three hour before bed let him know that you cant have nothing else to drink because your gonna be going to bed soon, he may just have a week bladder or may be having dreams

My daughter is 9 and wets almost everynight. We've been to the doctors and tried 3 meds with no results. They say she'll grow out of it, it may take until her teens. She wears a pull-up called GOODNITES. These rarely ever leak. If they do it is her responsibility to strip the bed down and carry to the washer. (when she was younger she helped me) Punishing only makes them feel worse. She sleeps so heavy it takes forever to wake her up, and half the time she's already wet. Her bladder just relaxes when she's into the deep sleep.

I don't know if you've had to combat matress smell/stains but Borax works, spray mattress lightly with warm water unti damp, dump Borax over wet spot and it will pull the stain/odor out. Let to dry and vaccumm up. This would be done in the am. (old fashioned detergent our grandma/great grandma's used found at meijers)

I found that you can get more advice at th GOODNITES website they will even send you a email once a month with a coupon in it. http://bedwetting.goodnites.com/index.php I hope this helps.

A.,
My son was 13 before he stopped having accidents at night. It is common (my sister was 16). It didn't matter if he went before bed or if we woke him up before we went to bed to go, he would still have accidents. This was caused (my Pediatrician said) because we tried so hard to potty train him we were constantly putting him on the potty and his bladder never got a chance to get full. Our pediatrician told us to let him drink a carbonated beverage (usually a 8 0z can. and during the day) then make him wait til he absolutley has to go. Make him hold it for as long as he can. This will stretch the bladder and he will be able to hold more fluids and last longer through the night. It worked for us!
We did try a medication and it made him constipated and he would not wear pull ups so we were stumped as to what to do.
It is tough for kids to go through this and they need our patience.
Good Luck!
K.