I do understand how you feel. I grew up flat and shapeless and was the butt of many jokes...."oh my, you are so skinny and flat, you must need to run around in a shower inorder to get wet"...etc. I went to therapy and once I learned to like myself, it stopped bothering me.
However at age 35 I finally developed hips. At age 40 I went into early menopause, lost my period, my body got wider..but still very flat. At age 60 I suddenly notice I didn't look right in my clothes anymore. The reason,I finally developed breasts. I knew nothing at all about buying bras as I never owned one and became overwhelemed in the stores...finally with the help of a friend I managed to find a size and brand that fit properly...so I brought several. Turns out I'm a 36-B. At age 62 I'm still struggling with getting used to wearing a bra. One can see it's the correct size yet it feels so annoying, so closed in. I do look better in my clothes when I'm dressed to go out...but I just can't wait to get home to take it off. Sometimes I don't even wait, I take it off in the car on the way home.
I know nothing about inplants. But you might consider calling N.Y.U. in Manhattan in terms of finding a surgeon and surgery as they have the best doctors... and people go there from all over the world for medical care and second opinions ....For a fee, they also make arrangements for long term parking and housing for those who travel in for medical care which makes life easier.
My experience with Albany doctors and the hospital there have been awful....I'll never drive in that direction again unless it's to the airport. Infact I've been doctor hopping for the last 21 years in Ulster County as these country doctors are a bunch of morons. I now have 2 doctors I hardly trust as yet but they at least seem to listen to my concerns, and seem to understand and except my sensitivity to medications. My sister who lives in Florida has the same problem there with doctors...so she flies up for the summer and while she visits with your grandchilden, She deals with all her medical needs in Manhattan and has had several surgeries at the "Hospital for Special surgery" and I have a friend who gets great care at N.Y.U....
You can do a google search for location and phone #'s if you are interested.
Good luck...