Arianna, You have received a lot of great advice. There are some "between the lines" that I'm wondering about. What has changed since you married? Is it to the point he has put all of the responsibility for his feelings/moods on you? From what you have said - he is expecting you to get counseling to change your personality and that will change him. He's in for a big surprise. Wonder what he would say if a counseler asked him why he has given you complete control over his emotional state?
Sweetie, I don't believe you are the problem! It's not up to you alone to save the marriage. Happiness is a choice - you don't depend on your spouse for your happiness (oh how I can attest to do that!). If he leaves your marriage because YOU bring HIM down - well, no doubt, he will find that "wherever he goes - there he is".
Sara T's advice on taking the Kendall's Life Languages was excellent advice. Did you know that opposites can have the very strongest of marriages? They don't have the same strengths and weaknesses. Opposites can have a very balanced marriage if they understand one another. The Life Languages will tell you exactly where your strengths and weaknesses are. Of course, it would be great if your hubby would take them, too so you can compare and pull together.
On of the other ladies recommeded Fireproof. Excellent suggestion! If you can't get him to go see it at the movies, it will be out on DVD Jan 27th - get it! We had "Fireproofing Your Marriage" class at our church for a few weeks and will probably be having it again. If you are interested, let me know - I will check on it for you.
The advice I'm giving you is based on a total of 34 years of marriage experience (that I could write a book on!!)
I am believing God's BEST for you!